Just wondering what you’d do here... bit of background, I’m 35, he’s 39. I was VERY clear I wanted to settle down and was looking for something serious, from date one or two from memory. He expressed a similar sentiment...he wanted to settle down and was looking for the right person.
Fast forward 10 months later, having seen each other every week for a couple of nights a week, a couple of trips away, lots of days out, sharing career goals etc...and he loses his job. He’s currently looking for another, it’s in a niche area so there’s not that many to go for! He is highly paid for what he does so it’s not a case of just taking any job in the area, it needs to be this one. We have talked about the fact we want to stay together regardless. All fine.
But the thing is, I want to live together. There’s a chance his new job might be in the same area, but even if it is I think I want us to move in. If it’s further away from where we are then I want to move in even more as I can’t be arsed with the travel to see each other!
But it’s 10 months in isn’t it? Is it crazy to suggest it? I know people do this within weeks and get married and it’s all fine for the next 40 years, but I’m talking generally speaking. Would it be reasonable to raise it? Even now I feel it is a faff driving back and forth (he drives to me too) and it’s only half an hour! I also kind of feel like we are stagnant...I kind of want to know if we work as a living together couple.
Would you raise this and if so, how? What would you do if he’s not keen?