Who makes the "big decisions" in your house?

[ohsodit]

Curious after a convo with dh last night

Apparently I do

This means for eg that

• I am the one who spends hours (days even!) trawling the internet for a house to rent for the summer (only for him to say "that's no good I don't like the pool" or "oh that one looks like it's near a road I don't want it) so I keep searching til I find something we both agree on

so - JOINT DECISION with me doing all the work

• I am the one who spends hours trawling the internet for a new mortgage deal every 2 or 3 years - he has NO interest in this sort of thing - I find the best 3 options and present them to him and we agree on one

so - JOINT DECISION with me doing all the work

I could carry on....

but I can't be bothered

So do I just let him do it? And treat him how he treats me (reject all holidays, have minimal interest in mortgage). He is not the type to spend ages comparing all the options I know.

What do you do?

What I hate is when "we" make a decision together, he completely aggrees with me, and then does the exact opposite. Roger the dog has a ery sensitive stomach, and if fed anything other than his own food will, 4 out of 5 times, throw up. Every time, dh and I have teh same conversation about it, every time he agrees, Rog is not allowed chcken skin/ham fat/leftover lamb stew and every time it's me that cleans up the pile of vomit, finds traces of offending human food and him that says, oh but I thought a little bit wouldn't hurt. And I can't leave it for him because it's me and the kids that would have to inhabit the vomitty kitchen all day until he came home.

28% control freak

"You have achieved the perfect balance of control and letting go.
You tend to roll with whatever life brings, but you never get complacent."

Gosh.

Wonder if DH would agree...

I was 72% too.
I knew it anyway. I'm quite self aware and know I am a bossy cow.

Despite being only 20% control freak I make the big decisions. If left to DH not a lot would happen.

His attempt at sorting new house insurance resulted in being billed nearly £60 by the old one. I have just had to ring up and pretend he sent a letter which must have got lost in the postal strike to sort it. So I wouldn't dare suggest he sorted things like a holiday for fear of ending up in a cottage in the middle of a war zone .

DH is even less of a control freak than me.

It's a miracle anything gets done in our house...

at marge's dh!

lol, prufrock, i didn't lie in my answers, or at least i think i was honest. i really don't have time to be a control freak, everything would grind to a halt.

28%
i chose holdidays because i want something that will interest me and the kids - he drinks beer -everywhere sells beer.

i will ave majority rule over buying a house.

he has majority rule over buying food - this is becuase he tants like a bitch if i buy anything more fancy than pasta

He thinks he does
I know I do

sort of similair to OP. I do all the leg work and gather options for us then to decide together. EG last night dh comes home and wants us to consider a move to Oz..it is me who is trawling sites, asking opinions etc..he will come home and look at what I have gathered..lol
Things to do witht he dc I make decisions and dh just abides by them which in some ways peeves me off but at same time I spend a lot more time with them.

My result - You Are 20% Control Freak

There's no way you're a control freak. You're totally laid back - and able to take life as it comes.
While you definitely have a healthy mental attitude, don't get suckered into letting someone control you.
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My ex husband would be 100% control freak if he did the test - he could not rest until their was a concensus of opinion, agreeing with him. All these years later I still have a thing about people who write lists, ugh - makes me shudder. I used to write on his lists - there were always several on the go at any one time - "remember to write list".