MARAC domestic violence 2

[Littlelegs2]

Hi I posted a few days back but can't find my post. So my daughter fleed domestic violence back in November. Well today I found out she's been in contact with him. Whilst he's been in prison. He's been in prison for around 6 months. Now I was hoping she would use that time to distance herself/move on . But a short while back she had contact with him for 20hrs . She said that was over a couple of weeks. And there's no been no contact for a month.

Professionals found out and now my grandson is on the child protection register. Daughter was put into emgency accommodation due to the domestic violence. He now has her phone number. Social services think he knows where she is although Daughter says he does not. Social services want her move from where she is either by approaching another council or by going to a refuge.

I feel so upset and sad for her and my grandson. I don't understand why she has done this . She was with him for about 9 months . He's not her sons father . So it's not even like it was long term and the violence happend over time. It was all pretty fast.

Basically if she does not show that she's stopped contacting him/they find out she has been in contact with him . Her son will be put in care.

I honestly don't know what to do .

If nothing is being done. Chase it up. Unfortunately those who make the most noise get the best service. If she doesn’t report ring yourself and complain. High risk DV is a hot potato for Police. I don’t mean that to sound mean but if you don’t want to see your grandson go into care you really have to be pro active. No one can criticise you for trying every which way to protect him. I feel for you I really do

@OverByYer

If nothing is being done. Chase it up. Unfortunately those who make the most noise get the best service. If she doesn’t report ring yourself and complain. High risk DV is a hot potato for Police. I don’t mean that to sound mean but if you don’t want to see your grandson go into care you really have to be pro active. No one can criticise you for trying every which way to protect him. I feel for you I really do

Dd told me he will be relised regardless. But they can then arrest him for the contact he's been making. But then he can also be released pending enquiries. I'm going to bring it up at conference when that happens.

If you’re open and honest @Littlelegs2 it really will go a long way. Pob Lwc and keep us posted

@OverByYer

If you’re open and honest *@Littlelegs2* it really will go a long way. Pob Lwc and keep us posted

I will be. What is pob Lwc

Good luck in Welsh xx

@OverByYer

Good luck in Welsh xx

thank you

Today dd got a call from sw. It turned out that her ex new about the meeting we had with sw. So sw called as thought there was still contact. It turned out that during our meeting dd had realised that a mutual friend had been passing on information to the ex in prison. So blocked this person. But had not told sw that the person knew about the meeting. The ex told his probation officer that he knew all about the meeting . Dd explained that the mutual friend knew about the meeting because she told her b4 it happened and it was only during the sw meeting that dd had realised who was passing on messages to the ex.

So that has raised more concerns. Dd is basically on her last warning. We think she is going to a refuge

Hmm doesn’t sound like the SW believes your DD. She really does need to prove herself now.

@OverByYer

Hmm doesn’t sound like the SW believes your DD. She really does need to prove herself now.

Yes definitely. I think by going to a refuge this would show the sw that dd truly wants to move on and keep her son safe . And I'm hoping it will give dd the support she needs. A refuge was the last thing dd wanted but I don't think she has a choice.

The sick thing is that she was telling this so called friend everything about social services even that if she had contact with him again that her son would go onto care. This person then told dds ex all this. He then passed it onto his probation officer knowing that probation officer would then contact social worker. Which it would then look like dd had told him about the meeting. So its like he and this girl have been setting dd up to loose her child....