On my one and only ever Tinder date (we are still together nearly a year on) we went to the pub. It was near to his work so I travelled there, as I wasn’t working that day and he was. We paid for alternate rounds - I drank four pints of cider! (Class act, me….we were both quite nervous to be fair and I think drinking quicker than we usually would). We did not go for a walk afterwards but he walked me to the station and waited for me to get my train, in a “gentlemanly” fashion, if that counts? (In truth, there wasn’t much gentlemanly about it - he was hoping for a kiss, and he got one!)
I am not sure where this falls on the coffee-to-dinner date spectrum, but it worked for me as I met a man who is all I could ask for a more….. 🤷♀️
If he had suggested a video call or even a phone call first I would have run a mile - we still never speak on the phone but are in touch all the time - we are texters. I hate phonecalls and Skype or similar is my worst nightmare.
If he had suggested a fancy meal I would similarly have been put off. I hate eating out in restaurants - I dislike the formality and always feel like some weird kind of fraud - to this day he and I have never had a formal meal out together - it’s just not what either of us is in to…..
I remember one date I went on that was not OLD but similar in the sense that we had met once before, I barely knew him. I told him I wanted to go to a pub, and about the type of pub I liked. He ended up taking me for some massively flash meal instead (to be fair I shouldn’t have gone when I found out what he had booked). I felt uncomfortable throughout, and it put me right off. Even tho he did pay, which was very kind….
You see, my current fella suits me down to the ground. Our preferred night out is the pub! That’s how we started and that’s how we continue.
Could it be that there is no one-size-fits all solution, and everyone should just go on the type of dates they think they will enjoy? And then be likely to meet the kind of person who enjoys the same type of stuff as them? Radical thought, I know…..
If OP enjoys coffee and a walk, why shouldn’t she have coffee and a walk? It wouldn’t be my choice of date, but it’s up to her, isn’t it? We are all different.