Message sent from my phone but I didn't send it

[beachd]

For people that have had reason to research phones as part of suspected affairs, etc., could anyone shed light on how the following is possible?

I had just got in my car from leaving the gym and my iPhone pinged. I didn't have my glasses on but I'm sure I saw my name pop up. When I got home I read it and it said 'I have your phone tee hee'.

This happened two years ago and at the time I just shrugged it off as a scam. I remember mentioning it to my husband, but I can't remember what he said nor how he'd reacted. I had actually thought at the time I had received a message, but I recently noticed that it's on the 'sent' side of the screen and it's a SMS from my mobile number sent to our home number.

I think the timing of the sending of the message coincides with DH buying a secondhand phone, about a week before.

Was his an iPhone too?

Mine and DD’s ended up linked somehow for a while and were getting each other’s text messages

If its an iphone and the apple account is linked, you can turn messages on and off from all linked numbers.

My childrens iphones are on my icloud account and sometimes following an update I have to change the settings again. When they were younger I left it on my phone so I could see who was messaging them etc.

Any messages I send to my daughter go to both her phone and the ipad as its set up for facetime calls to show as her (she uses it the most to chat to friends).

So do you think your phones are linked and your DH sent it to someone?

There weren't any linked numbers. I could barely remember the password to my apple ID at that time and there's no way DH would have remembered it, or even known it actually. The ipad used DH's apple ID.

I've just remembered that because it said 'Home' on it and I thought it had been a message sent to me by 'Home' (landline) somehow, when I mentioned it to DH he had said he'd been having issues with the BT router/ he'd been on the phone to BT. But that's garbage, isn't it? It wasn't a text message sent from our landline. Sorry just thinking out loud really.

So basically someone took your phone and texted your home from it saying I have your phone? Why would that pop up on your screen?

Oh are you saying you think someone’s cloned your number?

@Bluntness100

So basically someone took your phone and texted your home from it saying I have your phone? Why would that pop up on your screen?

Nobody could have taken my phone as it was in a locked car outside the gym. Yes, it pinged just like I'd received an SMS. I am guessing it popped up on my phone in much the same way it would had I just sent a message?

@Bluntness100

Oh are you saying you think someone’s cloned your number?

I really don't know @Bluntness100.

Has the SMS actually sent. As in although it's on the sent side, if it's been sent but failed repeatedly , it sometimes pings up as a incoming message, to let you know it's failed to send.

Could your DH had your phone whilst you were at home and tried to send the text to your home phone line so it rings and you answer it as a prank? If he's tried to do that and then it's failed to send it could have been retrying and retrying

Actually I'm more confused. Doesn't your iPhone actually tell you who it's sent to if it's on the sent side.

I mean your saying you think it said home , what does the message actually say it was sent to?

You can text your own number on iPhones and it pops up like a normal message. I’ve done it a fair few times to remember appointments etc. Could someone have grabbed your phone for a laugh?

Ignore that last one, ive reread your OP.

So what phone number was it sent to?

I think you are meaning you think somehow DH has sent a txt to a number and you think it was meant for some other woman? Is that right?

Hi OP, without meaning to be rude, you probably will get loads of insightful replies from a techhie forum where they know the ins and outs of linked accounts. I certainly have read before about a couple where her iPad got synched up to his phone and she could see all the texts he'd sent that week.

If it’s an iPhone you can go into iMessages and see what numbers are set up for sending and receiving messages. Household numbers can end up on there

Don't forget scammers can make a message look like it's come from any number at all, but they'd have to know your number in the first place.

What do you think has happened?

No, it's a sent message - just the one - which I've now checked, shows up on my itemised billing.
DH made no mention of pranking me and my iPhone was with me at the time, and I believe he was at home.
I think the only way this is possible is if someone had a device which was still logged in to my apple ID and used that to send a jokey message to 'Home'. And I'm now wondering if that third party did not realise that it was my number rather than DH's number.

(He didn't know he'd done it, it was something to do with sharing an e-book in the end but led to his affair coming out!)

But do you know the number it was sent to?!?!

@5475878237NC

(He didn't know he'd done it, it was something to do with sharing an e-book in the end but led to his affair coming out!)

Happened to my aunty too!

@Horehound

But do you know the number it was sent to?!?!

Yes, our home number (landline), which is labelled 'Home' under my contacts.

Ah ok. Hmm yeh I wouldn't overthink it then.
The only weird thing is your DH blabbering about contacting BT...what's that about?!

Do you suspect your husband of anything?

@Horehound

Ah ok. Hmm yeh I wouldn't overthink it then. The only weird thing is your DH blabbering about contacting BT...what's that about?!

I have no idea. Maybe because I said that I'd bizarrely received a text from our Home number while I was out, he thought that would be the easiest way to explain it? As I said, I had accepted that explanation until recently when I realised that Home hadn't sent it to me, it was the other way round.