Message sent from my phone but I didn't send it

[beachd]

For people that have had reason to research phones as part of suspected affairs, etc., could anyone shed light on how the following is possible?

I had just got in my car from leaving the gym and my iPhone pinged. I didn't have my glasses on but I'm sure I saw my name pop up. When I got home I read it and it said 'I have your phone tee hee'.

This happened two years ago and at the time I just shrugged it off as a scam. I remember mentioning it to my husband, but I can't remember what he said nor how he'd reacted. I had actually thought at the time I had received a message, but I recently noticed that it's on the 'sent' side of the screen and it's a SMS from my mobile number sent to our home number.

I think the timing of the sending of the message coincides with DH buying a secondhand phone, about a week before.

So do you think yours and DH phones are somehow linked.
He has left his phone/ a phone somewhere and the person who has it has texted him saying ‘ Tee hee I’ve got your phone’
For what it’s worth I think a woman has written the text, I can’t imagine a bloke writing ‘ Tee Hee’

If it was an affair I'd have imagined the message to be a bit more...interesting?! It wouldn't be a good thing if he had her phone.

Have you noticed any weird behaviour that makes you think anything suspicious?

Tbh it just sounds like a weird jokey thing and innocent enough but bizarre. I don't think anything sinister but you know your husband

Orange and Vodafone offer multiple sims with one phone number, but you would have had to arrange that. The second hand phone he has bought, what sim has he put in that phone?

@CaraherEIL

So do you think yours and DH phones are somehow linked. He has left his phone/ a phone somewhere and the person who has it has texted him saying ‘ Tee hee I’ve got your phone’ For what it’s worth I think a woman has written the text, I can’t imagine a bloke writing ‘ Tee Hee’

The phones certainly were not linked.

But thank you, yes, that is certainly what I thought about a woman writing 'tee hee', but didn't want to prejudice anyone's opinion by stating my opinion at the outset.

Since the text was sent from my number (rather than his) he can't have left his own phone anywhere. But he may have left a device somewhere which was assumed to be his, but was actually one of my old devices, yes?

Could your husband have sent it using your phone when he was setting up his new phone- ie borrowed your phone to check his new phone was working with your sim?

@beachd

No, it's a sent message - just the one - which I've now checked, shows up on my itemised billing. DH made no mention of pranking me and my iPhone was with me at the time, and I believe he was at home. I think the only way this is possible is if someone had a device which was still logged in to my apple ID and used that to send a jokey message to 'Home'. And I'm now wondering if that third party did not realise that it was my number rather than DH's number.

Was the message charged for?

I don't get itemised bills anymore but when I did I thought they only showed items that were outside the contract which was only on the rare occasion I'd called a premium number

Very odd

Have you sold/got rid of a phone?

Sounds like could be childish prank

@CaraherEIL

Orange and Vodafone offer multiple sims with one phone number, but you would have had to arrange that. The second hand phone he has bought, what sim has he put in that phone?

I wasn't aware of what he was doing with phones/sims back when it occurred. All I know is, he told me he'd bought a secondhand iPhone to temporarily replace his damaged Android phone. He knew back then that I had zero interest in phones, so I couldn't have even told you the colour of the damn phones for instance.

I reckon the second hand phone is at the root of all this

Change the password for your email address registered with your phone and then change the password for your Apple ID. It will ask you if you'd like to sign out of all devices logged into your account, then you can be sure no one has access.

Doesn't get you to the bottom of what is going on though, sorry!

@rangersfc

Change the password for your email address registered with your phone and then change the password for your Apple ID. It will ask you if you'd like to sign out of all devices logged into your account, then you can be sure no one has access.

Doesn't get you to the bottom of what is going on though, sorry!

Thank you x

Apple devices are a pile of shit. Honestly I'd throw this phone in the bin and get something decent. Have a look for a HTC or OnePlus refurbed.

I'm incredibly cynical and expect every so-called monogamous partner to play away, but nothing that you've written ticks those boxes for me.

But first look in messages to see what numbers/emails are using it?

In settings

if you still have the message after 2 years and you are still checking it ... you must have reason to be suspicious?

@WouldBeGood

In settings

Thank you. So, my own mobile number and my email address (which is my name) are set up for sending and receiving messages. And I thought I saw my name pop up when the message first pinged, so what would that mean?

It could be a really old message that has failed to send so its been sent back to you

Are there any other numbers/names?

If this happened 2 years ago what has triggered the thread today? Has something else happened?

And if you go to Apple ID you will see devices linked to the account. Which might help

@QOD

if you still have the message after 2 years and you are still checking it ... you must have reason to be suspicious?

Yes, there's plenty, but I need to get to the bottom of this one particular issue as it occurred to me that someone might (still) have access to everything backed up on my phone since this random message two years ago. And I don't think for one moment DH would want to snoop on my phone. He knows it's mainly family/everyday messages/photos and we're both open with our phones anyway.

@WouldBeGood

And if you go to Apple ID you will see devices linked to the account. Which might help

There aren't any listed.

I think you can log into iMessage on an iPad or Mac and use it. So sounds like someone found an iPad or Mac with your iMessage still logged in, and decided to mess with you. Your child/sister/a colleague?

Makes sense to text “home”, as it’s impossible to text yourself. So they just picked a neutral contact to make the conversation pop up on your phone, I reckon.

This (or similar) has happened to me a few times before. I've always had iPhones, so probably around 11 years now and I also have iPads and kids phones too now.

The only way it's happened to me is that someone has either purposefully logged into my Apple ID on their device or they have used one of my other devices to send/receive messages. For example, used to have my iPad set up to totally sync with my phone. If I took a photo on my phone it would show up on the iPad, same with texts and calls. Once I realised that my abusive exH was reading (and replying) to my texts I changed all the settings so they are 2 separate devices now.

Another way was when I gave my old phone to one of the kids and even though it was set up as a new phone, it still showed my Apple ID on there somehow. Or I used to have them on my ID but as children so I could restrict and see what they were doing.

So I reckon your husband (or kids?) is either messing about with you and knows exactly what they're doing or he's given one of your old devices to someone and they're messing about with you.

My creepy old boss used to send me texts with "teehee" in them. So some men do say it.

Creepy ones.