Myself and my husband have been married 13 years together 17.
We are in a really shitty place. We both think each other is wrong so talking gets us nowhere.
I get drunk and let him know how he makes me feel in a horrible way and he is very controlling in day to day life. We have a 9 and a 6 year old. I feel that every time I have kicked off at him whilst drunk is because he has tried to control me and guilt me into doing what he wants me to do.