Would you run for the hills? (Lighthearted)

[lostitall]

You meet a nice guy, get on we'll have a laugh and lots in common. However he refers to sex as doing 'rude' stuff. A saucy selfie and it's 'you're a rude girl' and when we meet he can't wait to 'be rude' with me

It's got no future has it?

Oh I couldn't.

Is he 12?

Never, ever, ever.

Ha ha ha that's the thing honestly
No he is in his 50s and widowed and think he's had a very sheltered sex life. We get on famously but when he comes out with that I think of a schoolboy looking at the bra section of his mams Kay's catalogue

Oh lord no. I'd be off like a shot. At least it wouldn't be like the speed of light that would occur if I heard the phrase "Bumping uglies " blergh.

Grim

If he uses the word ‘nookie’, you can be doubly sure that there is no future to this relationship.

Apart from being a terrible euphemism, it conjures up images of that bloody bear with the ventriloquist.

Perhaps you could subtlety replace the word. So when he says rude, repeat the sentence with another word.

I’dreply with ‘oh you have no idea if you think THAT was rude! 😈’

I don’t think I could get over the idea of him looking at the Miss Mary of Sweden ‘foundation garments’ in his mum’s Kay’s Catalogue and saying to himself, “ooh, that’s quite rude”.

Give the guy a chance 😂

He's a secret sex people

I'll be honest, OP.
"Saucy" is a billion times worse.
Sorry.
There are no words that aren't cringey in one way or another.

If that's his only flaw then I'd just look past it. Its annoying, but hardly the worst thing on the planet. There are so few actual nice decent men out there, if you have one of those but he just uses the word rude every now and then I'd hang on to him and just try and bring up eventually to him perhaps not using the word rude so much.

Yuck. I’d give him a miss.

Oh nooooo. Reminds me of how I've known several men use the word 'nakey' in bed. Makes me puke.

If he's otherwise a good un, can you have a go at addressing this one head on with a smile, maybe he can say 'sexy' instead of 'rude'? Good luck!

You could just say upfront that sex isn't rude and he needs to stop calling it that but equally you could not bother
Ew

Sounds like you have the ick. There's not much coming back from that

I've got the ick

I'd give him a chance tbh. Some of the people who seems most repressed and coy are the ones who are red hot in bed in my experience

I’m not a fan but I don’t think it’s a deal breaker if the sex life is good. Hang in there long enough that you can have a laugh and tell him to stop using the word without embarrassing him

I wouldn't do rude stuff with him even with someone else's vagina.

Nippy, Nippy

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