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I've given him my phone number eeeeeek!

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fortunacookie · 30/05/2021 09:10

I've met a lovely guy at work, we chat a lot when we can and I've dropped hints that I'm single and I've found out he is too...well today at end of my shift I just wrote my number down on some paper and gave it to him saying 'if you fancy a chat' and then bolted out of the door !! Shock

So now I'm waiting to see if:-

A) he doesn't text at all to which it will be so awkward on our next shift together; or

B) he messages and politely declines which will also be awkward but hey I can deal with it and move on; or

C) he tells me he feels the same and we live happily ever after

BTW I am 49 and so is he - although I know I'm acting like a teenager but I'm too damn impatient!!

Hmm
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fortunacookie · 30/05/2021 11:50

@Sisisimone

Or think you just wanted to chat! Yes think you probably should have been clearer and said if you fancy meeting up/fancy going for a drink etc. If someone gave me their number in case I wanted to chat sometime I'd probs think they just wanted to be mates. Hope it works out for you though
Yeah you're right he probably has taken it the chat way...he's the kind of guy whose pretty laid back but really ?? I think I've made it obvious I like him Grin
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Maze76 · 30/05/2021 12:48

So excited for you! Hoping it works out.

Treacletoots · 30/05/2021 12:54

Fingers crossed for you OP. I did something similar and we've been together for the last 8 years!

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fortunacookie · 30/05/2021 13:12

@Treacletoots

Fingers crossed for you OP. I did something similar and we've been together for the last 8 years!
Oooh that sounds promising !

Not heard yet but I'm still hoping

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fortunacookie · 30/05/2021 16:15

Still not heard gaaaaaah ! Gonna be very uncomfortable on Tuesday when we back in work together Hmm

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ALittleBitConfused1 · 30/05/2021 16:16

I applaud your bravery, well done you.
I'm keeping everything crossed for scenario C.

And I say this as someone who has fancied someone I loosely work with (same company, different area) for 5 years. He is also now single and we sometimes have to chat about work stuff but recently conversations have also included some personal stuff (both wfh) but I don't have the balls to put it out there and let him know I fancy him (as not even sure he fancies me or is just a friendly chatty guy). .

In my head Id do what you did, he'll say lets go out for a drink and boom i have a hot new bloke, in reality i find any excuse to speak to him work related, and then bumble my way through the conversation lol.

I shall live precariously through you OP.

RoseRedRoseBlue · 30/05/2021 16:24

Maybe he wants to text but just doesn’t know what to say!

IEat · 30/05/2021 16:40

Is this a real thread, few days ago some of us became hooked on a woman who liked a colleague and couldn’t decide whether to ask if for a walk or a coffee , she gave him
number..:: turns out that was a load of crap

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fortunacookie · 30/05/2021 18:59

@IEat

Is this a real thread, few days ago some of us became hooked on a woman who liked a colleague and couldn’t decide whether to ask if for a walk or a coffee , she gave him number..:: turns out that was a load of crap
Yes it's my life and is real though now I'm wishing it wasn't Shock
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fortunacookie · 30/05/2021 19:01

@ALittleBitConfused1

I applaud your bravery, well done you. I'm keeping everything crossed for scenario C.

And I say this as someone who has fancied someone I loosely work with (same company, different area) for 5 years. He is also now single and we sometimes have to chat about work stuff but recently conversations have also included some personal stuff (both wfh) but I don't have the balls to put it out there and let him know I fancy him (as not even sure he fancies me or is just a friendly chatty guy). .

In my head Id do what you did, he'll say lets go out for a drink and boom i have a hot new bloke, in reality i find any excuse to speak to him work related, and then bumble my way through the conversation lol.

I shall live precariously through you OP.

Aw well thanks but there's a bit of regret now as he hasn't text me ...it's just going to be soooooo awkward next time I see him Blush
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fortunacookie · 30/05/2021 19:02

@RoseRedRoseBlue

Maybe he wants to text but just doesn’t know what to say!
I really hope this is the case but my gut is telling me he ain't interested ...
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Happyschool · 30/05/2021 19:05

You did really well at least being brave! Honestly don’t regret it either way as if for any reason he doesn’t respond directly just act really friendly and normal and not awkward and it’ll blow over. But I’m sure you’ve given him something nice to think about and hope he replies or at least feels encouraged!

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fortunacookie · 30/05/2021 19:07

@Happyschool

You did really well at least being brave! Honestly don’t regret it either way as if for any reason he doesn’t respond directly just act really friendly and normal and not awkward and it’ll blow over. But I’m sure you’ve given him something nice to think about and hope he replies or at least feels encouraged!
Yeah that's a good way to think about it ! I know if someone gave me their number whom I thought was half decent ...it would give me a real ego boost ! Grin
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KitNCaboodle · 01/06/2021 05:19

Good luck seeing him today.

Sakurami · 01/06/2021 05:33

Don't regret it. There is no shame in liking someone and having the guts to say it. And if he doesn't call then at least you'll know and can move on.

Dannyandsandy · 01/06/2021 10:47

Any update op? Hope everything goes well for you and he messages!

bettertimesareacoming · 01/06/2021 10:56

Good luck op I really hope he texts you

celerysticks · 01/06/2021 17:02

I've been following this thread.... any update?

beachlife18 · 01/06/2021 17:27

Aww hope he txts 🤞

Sandra15 · 01/06/2021 17:28

I remember a guy I worked with said he owed me a drink because I'd helped him out with something. I had fancied him for a while and when I asked him, he wriggled out of it.

Noshowlomo · 01/06/2021 17:34

Don't regret it! You haven't lost anything and you have been mega brave!

alexdgr8 · 01/06/2021 17:34

maybe he is gay, or celibate, or determindly single.
maybe he thought you meant if he was worried about something, needed support, and he isn't, so he didn't.
don't worry. just be your normal cheery self.
but be careful in future. could have been a maniac. many of them are very plausible publicly. nice manners, job.
just be careful. good luck.

ChubbyMsSunshine · 01/06/2021 17:42

What happened today OP? Hope nothing too awkward?

You did the right thing to give it a go, regardless.

Candleabra · 01/06/2021 17:48

@Noshowlomo

Don't regret it! You haven't lost anything and you have been mega brave!
Agree with this. And actually if he isn't interested then it's a shame but saves you weeks of wondering where this is going.
Lsquiggles · 01/06/2021 17:55

Very ballsy OP! Wine