If a friend did any of the following to you what would you make of it?
You buy the tickets for both of you for an event and you meet there. She offers to buy lunch for both of you but the bill doesn't cover her share of the tickets. Doesn't offer the difference. Happens several times.
Invites herself to stay at your house a lot including several weekends on the trot whilst she sorts out her parents house probate. They lived very close to you. Rarely if ever returns the favour. Probably a 5/95 ratio.
If you go shopping together gathers up armful of clothes to try on and expects you to help her choose and get other clothes for her whilst she's in the changing room. You lose the will to live to find anything for yourself. Tries to take an item of clothing out of your hands that you have picked up to look at.
Tells you a different version of events than her husband ie why someone fell out with her. Other conversations that don't add up.
Insists on borrowing a dress you have only just bought.
Borrows other items but never returns them.
Is told by a manager about your redundancy from a job where you both work a few days before you are told and then makes a show of trying to prevent it although it is pointless.
Withholds an invite to a party by a mutual friend and goes with someone else instead.
Takes over your big birthday trip abroad, makes all the decisions including shopping trips which are not your thing. You are early stage IVF pregnancy, not feeling great which goes unnoticed and you miscarry when you get home. Tries to get everyone's contact details so she can keep in touch with them.
Agrees to spend Easter with you and then acts as if you haven't had the conversation the next time you see her ie she's doing something else. Happened several times.
You ask for a very rare favour from her as you are setting up a business. She forgets to do it.
Calls you when she's staying at her parents house and tries to order you to go to the local supermarket to get her a hairdryer because she's forgotten hers and washed her hair. Her husband is sitting next to her having breakfast. Both houses are equal distance to the same supermarket.
Asks you about your Sky package and you give her a card offering both of you vouchers if she signs up. She signs up but doesn't use the deal.
You travel two hours to meet her by train and she's an hour and a half late from her journey which is ten minutes away. No explanation.
She tries to offer you your birthday gift which she's smashed on the way.
Puts a stool between you and the person you are talking to in a bar and sits on it so you can't see them anymore.
Would like the puppy you are rehomimg (pedigree but you have kept back to sort out health issues) but can you hold onto it whilst she goes on holiday and various social events. Expects it for free.