Of course, I feel that all mumsnetters are my friends, but I am short of parent-friends.
I fell pregnant very soon after getting married and moved house soon after the birth. This has meant things have changed for me in a very short space of time. I feel that I don't have any friends who have children of a similar age (or any children at all). Those that do, live too far away and have started afresh elsewhere. I don't unfortunately have that courage or the time. I haven't had to 'make' friends for a long time. The friends I had before were all single, wealthy and glamorous (but insecure about biological clock etc) and we have very little in common. In fact, they now mock my figure and baggy clothes and the fact that I don't go to bars/clubs anymore. I am envious of their sex lives and abundant cash.
DS goes to nursery and his best friend's mum is now my friend and we have been to their house once. But she works hard too and has as little energy as me and we just worry each other about the standards at the nursery and exorbitant fees.
To complicate matters, I have elderly parents nearby to look after and am constantly rushing around. I don't go to toddler groups because DS spends 10 hours at the nursery each day he is there and probably gets enough toddler contact.
Last year I met a girl with a child like mine in the park and socialised with her, when I say socialise, we went to the ball pool and parks together. She was very good for me as very positive and optimistic person, I hope she felt that I was good for her too! She is now moving away and I will lose my only local friend who is a mum.
I am now expecting no. 2 and feel that I really should have friends who I can see who have children/expectant. It shouldn't be too much to ask, afterall I have moved countries 3 times, travelled the world alone, picked up/dropped men. But can I be bothered to find ordinary companionship (of the healthiest kind)?
Living in London does make it difficult as people are different here and I am not very cliquey.
Some of you may suggest that I may not be bothered enough to make an effort. I suspect that too, but where do you start.
Please be honest with suggestion. Feeling a bit lost and lonely?