Please don't tell me to block and move on. I more just want to focus on what this behaviour means?
I was with someone in a close way for 6 months. We exchanged I love you. We were extremely open with eachother. This man was older than me by 13 years. He was early 40s. Was 3 years out of his last relationship. He has depression and issues from his past so he's very up and down and I think to an extent he is scared to commit.
Meeting me I think threw him as he got real feelings. But he was doing abit of sneaky window shopping online and i got abit sick of things when one of his divorced school friends that he's never seen started flirting with him online right Infront of me. We split up because he didn't want to talk about it.
I've been struggling the last few months. He blocked me on everything and realising the stuff we had said was gone hurt.
4 days ago he sent me a friend request on Facebook. I messaged him and asked why. He said he wanted to know how I was. I said I was ok and asked him the same. Then he just stopped messaging.
I left it 24 hours then asked him more about what he had been doing and asked him if had meant any of the things he said. He replied the next morning as he fell asleep. Dodged the meaningful questions and Just replied to the general chit chat.
All day he talked about himself and responded in a chatty way. But asked me absolutely nothing. He filled me in on his work plans and all that stuff. Sent me a funny voice clip that was circling.
Then I told him that I had been upset with how things were left. He replied and said aww sorry. Then he fell asleep. Text me yesterday and just apologised for falling asleep. Then put a thumbs up to my it's ok have a good day at work. He did confirm he didn't know why he wanted to get in touch but felt he wanted to see how I was.
I just don't understand. Why come back? Especially without saying I want to be just friends or whatever. It feels like he doesn't even know himself. But to unblock me and send a request must be for a reason?
The fact he isn't wanting to make conversation and not taking an interest in me is really confusing me!
There's alot more to this than I can write without making the post too long.
It feels to me like he's come back but he is dodging me at the same time. I just need some advice from men or women who have been treated the same.