Confused by ex’s comments

[Swishswash88]

Hi, just looking for some advice. I got dumped 3 months ago, we had only been together for 6 months but I genuinely thought he was the one, I was so in love with him.
It ended out of the blue, he rang me to say he can’t be with me because he has issues and will never settle down, he will always be on his own and he just can’t commit.
He wasn’t great during the break up and didn’t treat me great, but we had a chat after a week and said our goodbyes. We haven’t had any contact since so it’s been nearly 3 months.
I’ve struggled with the break up, it really affected me but since joined OLD and been on a couple of dates, starting to move on.
My ex and I have a mutual friend, I spoke to him yesterday and he said that my ex told him he misses me, that we got on so well but he still can’t be with anyone.
What does this mean?! I wish he would just text or call to talk to me but he said to my friend he won’t do this because he doesn’t want to give the wrong impression. I’m so confused, why say you miss me and do nothing about it. Should I get in touch with him? I’m tempted but I don’t want to get hurt again/look desperate. Any advice would be great, thanks

Block and move on

I’m not sure what you’re confused about, you can miss someone and still not want to be with them, by all means contact him but he will probably just want a fwb situation

Just because he misses you, doesn’t mean he should be your partner. He’s openly admitting he’s not in a good place and cant be with anyone, so believe him and leave him be, he’s trying to do the right thing. It was 6 months, so not a life changing amount of time so smile at the memories and move on and leave him to it, if he’s openly telling you ‘I will never settle down’ don’t be the woman who sees that as a challenge and waste years of your life xx

Thanks Daisylg, that’s what I needed to hear

Just because he doesn't want a relationship doesn't mean he didn't care about you or didn't enjoy the time you had together, so he may well miss you. But equally just because he misses you or liked your time together, it doesn't mean he wants a relationship. Even when he said to your friend that he misses you, he still said he doesn't want a relationship so it doesn't look like something that's changing.

Just see it as you both had a nice 6 months, but it ran its course and now it's time to move on and meet someone that wants a relationship and the same things you do.