He kissed his friend

[Popsi0]

I've namechanged but I'm so shocked and I really don't know what to do.

I've got a 6 week old ds and I've been with my partner for 3 years. Last night my partner told me he needed to tell my something as he felt guilty. He told me that a couple of weeks ago he kissed his (male) friend. He said he doesn't know why but he isn't gay and he isn't attracted to him.

I'm so shocked and really don't know where to go from here..

@flashylamp

It's not a red herring.

If he kissed a woman he'd be a cheat, some women would still stay and work through that though.

Oh. Well that would be a silly move on the woman's part!

If he kissed a man then he's still a cheat, but he's also possibly hiding his sexuality!

His sexuality is irrelevant. It's his commitment in question here.

Nope, totally disagree.

I wouldn't forgive a kiss, but many women do.

And his sexuality is completely relevant because it is possible that he is hiding his sexuality, which is something that some people do.

I've seen numerous posts on here over the years where men have come out as gay despite being with their wives for years/decades, so if you want to talk about being silly, then it would be 'silly' to say oh well it's not relevant that it was a man

@Popsi0

I've namechanged but I'm so shocked and I really don't know what to do.

I've got a 6 week old ds and I've been with my partner for 3 years. Last night my partner told me he needed to tell my something as he felt guilty. He told me that a couple of weeks ago he kissed his (male) friend. He said he doesn't know why but he isn't gay and he isn't attracted to him.

I'm so shocked and really don't know where to go from here..

Well gay or not he kissed someone else. Question is why did he tell you? Perhaps because you might have found out from his friend?

My husband was kissing men. Turned out he was gay. If it looks like a duck and it walks like a duck, the chances are it’s a duck.