What would you do if your DP said this?

[bankholidaydream]

I see DP weekly. On a few occasions we will meet in the week but in the last (almost) year I would say that’s happened maybe 10 times.

Last weekend he said he was maxed out this coming weekend with work stuff (he’s doing an online course outside of work that he needs to complete for a promotion). He can’t always do this in the evenings as he works late. Fair enough... I suggested just meeting for a takeaway one evening over the weekend, or alternatively staying Sunday night. He said he didn’t know as he wouldn’t know how long the work would take...I’ve not bothered to ask again as I assume he would say if he suddenly managed to fit me in

I know one weekend isn’t necessarily a big deal but the weekend after he is in London with friends so we won’t see each other. It’s been in the calendar for ages.

Basically if we don’t meet this weekend it will be 3 weeks apart. We only live 40 miles apart.

I feel irritated and shit about it. What’s annoying is that I love him to pieces and when together or chatting on the phone it’s a great relationship. We are very close and laugh a lot.

This has made me feel shit. I even offered to come over one evening after work and he’s hesitant about that as he says he will finish work late and it’s far for me to drive at 8pm etc etc.

I don’t want to lose him but this has really bothered me. Am I blowing this out of proportion? We are both well into 30s in professional jobs, I feel like a bit on the side sometimes. I know I’m not but it feels that way. Just not sure what to think, he assures me he wants this and shows me that all the time when together.

@Countrycode

What would happen if you just went over there with a pizza one night?

If a man did that to me after I told him I was too busy I would see it as a massive red flag. Completely over steps boundaries and is quite pushy and controlling.

I’d end a relationship over that. It’s nigh on stalker behaviour. You need to respect other people. Not force youtself on them against their will.

And as said, I don’t think the op just wants to eat pizza and go, so I’m unsure why she keeps saying it.

Ask yourself if this is the type of relationship you want. If it isn’t then get out. If it is then roll with it. Only you can decide what’s right for you. Your happiness isn’t dependant on someone else. Not saying this about you, but far too many people put their happiness and self worth in the hands of others. Once you truly love and respect yourself , life is so much easier to navigate. Wish you well.