Things you don't miss

[crochetmonkey74]

So I am single and just coming into the enjoying it stage (5 months post break up) and I am enjoying living alone again- so much so that I am actively grateful to not have to put up with the following

1. The Farting - particularly night time ones
2. The endless routine cycle of what shall we have for tea/ watch on Netflix?
3. The insecurity of 'are they fancying someone else' work wives bollocks
4. The political ranting (this is specific to my DP but I know other friends DPs who have their own particular rants)

What don't you miss?

Wiping his shit off the toilet
Ironing his shirts
Selfishness
Constantly on his phone
Making me feel shit
Winding the kids up before bed
Not having to cook for him and can eat when I feel hungry

The silent, openly disapproving looks.

Bad breath
Slovenly ways
Disgusting hygiene (or lack of hygiene)
The greedy pig eating everything in the house
The secretiveness with his phone
Tiny pointless dick that he didn't know what to do with (other than pull it in secret)
Lies
Snoring

Wow you set me off on a total rant there and believe me I could go on much much more 🤣

I love being rid of the fat lump 🤣🤣

Snoring.

His loud voice

His team speak bollocks that made me miss what was being said on tv.

Watching him wear clothes that are practically disintegrating.

The bathroom smelling

Having to do the thinking for him.as well.as the kids.

Him being a miserable fucker at home with me and the kids because he was having an affair but didn't have the guts to tell me.

Also

The feeling that you've annoyed someone else - he got annoyed when I was clumsy.
His passivity - me doing the emotional labour
Laziness- nobody really WANTS to do the garden/laundry/talk to bloody NPower but someone has got to do it!

Also the excuses made for his friends treating women TERRIBLY

Tension and misery
The simplest things made impossibly difficult
Mess
A mind like the Twilight zone
The effects of apathy
A feeling of constant disappointment

Here’s to freedom!

I'm jealous as I'm still going through all the things you all don't miss plus more. Good luck to you all well done. I need him gone.

@Tomyoneandonly

I'm jealous as I'm still going through all the things you all don't miss plus more. Good luck to you all well done. I need him gone.

I hope it will be an easy process for you, and you’ll find yourself happier than tip could have imagined.

I love living by myself. Six years ago the thought of being by myself, was one of the things that kept me in a bad marriage.

Also political ranting
Interrupting meditations and audio books ('what are you doing? What's it about? Do you like it? This sounds silly!')
In depth lectures about the dangers of mold
Extortionate take aways
Having to watch and do things I know I won't like to 'give it a try' you never know I might like the 3rd/4th/5th season of GoT
Getting nagged until I go for a hike walk when I'm in agony because 'loads of women get periods and just get on with it'
Being constantly told how wrong I am
Being contradicted just for the sake of it
Knowing he's messaging another woman while I'm putting DS to bed on my own

It bugs me that it was so gradual, can't they just say they're arseholes on the first date? 😂

Fiddling with his nose hair.

The drug taking and drinking

Bumping, please continue …

Sniffing! And refusing to blow his nose as otherwise he 'would be blowing it all the time' exactly, that's what people do instead of grossly sniffing all the time.
I dont miss the deep knowing I had that he would never be able to support me in emotional times (this came true)
The superiority he clearly felt over people not as clever as him.
Having his hand on his knob ALL the time

@Tomyoneandonly

I'm jealous as I'm still going through all the things you all don't miss plus more. Good luck to you all well done. I need him gone.

I’m feeling the same way…. Seeing things in black and white helps as he does things that are mentioned on here. I hope it all works out for you, and that you find happiness xx

@crochetmonkey74

Sniffing! And refusing to blow his nose as otherwise he 'would be blowing it all the time' exactly, that's what people do instead of grossly sniffing all the time. I dont miss the deep knowing I had that he would never be able to support me in emotional times (this came true) The superiority he clearly felt over people not as clever as him. Having his hand on his knob ALL the time

Sniffing! And refusing to blow his nose as otherwise he 'would be blowing it all the time' exactly, that's what people do instead of grossly sniffing all the time. Mine is the same, but with the frog in the throat, which keeps me awake. Disgusting.

I’m reading these as I’m thinking of leaving.

I’m sick of his parents being overbearing, the insinuation that I can’t be looking after his son as well as they did. He is still tied to the apron strings and they are happy to keep it that way…
How they look down on younger women, and he does the same because he is a robot.
The farting
Frog in his throat as above, won’t clear it.
Drinks too much.

I could go on..

Not knowing whether he's drunk or sober at any given time of day
having arguments blow up out of nowhere then have him follow me round the house after I've tried to deescalate and walk away
Piss on the floor
Shit stained toilets
Having the neighbours see our over spilling glass bin full of wine bottles every 2 weeks
Him basically

I’m in a relationship and I never want to live with anyone! I’m aware it might end because of this but I don’t care. Nobody is taking my own space from me and me resenting our relationship ✌🏼

Him reminding me, at a particularly low point in my life, that his OLD profile had stated he wanted someone slim and happy (and 5 years younger than himself).

The school uniform fetish. The threesome fetish. The uncomfortable sex that had to be scheduled because of his ED. The hideous sex face. The apparent belief that orgasms had to be accompanied by a deafening bellow.

The time I thought I'd finally managed to solve Menopause without killing myself, which included installing a coil. He then said he hated coils because he could feel them and he was afraid of being poked in the urethra. Luckily the clinic couldn't do it on the day, so in the end the Mirena lasted longer than he did.

I’d be here forever typing all the things I don’t miss. But some of the big ones...

• Him comparing me to other women.
• Him coming home for the weekend and instantly being in a shitty mood with me for no reason.
• His inability to do anything for himself... couldn’t cook, wash his own clothes, do food shopping, get his own fucking beer out the fridge.
• Never knowing what would set him off, turns out it was just me in general.
• Never being able to watch/listen to what I wanted... or if I tried being told it was shit and him sulking.
• Being shouted at for wanting my own space so he could do his own thing.
• Not being able to speak to male friends without him insinuating there was more than a friendship.
• The constant sulking if I wasn’t in the mood to be intimate or had my period.

Sometimes getting it out, black and white, really makes you realise what you accomplished by leaving.

@crochetmonkey74
Sniffing! And refusing to blow his nose as otherwise he 'would be blowing it all the time' exactly, that's what people do instead of grossly sniffing all the time
I dont miss the deep knowing I had that he would never be able to support me in emotional times (this came true)
The superiority he clearly felt over people not as clever as him
Having his hand on his knob ALL the time

When I read your first post I thought "mmm sounds like my ex from 10 years ago". Now I've read your follow up post I'm pretty sure they are one and the same - it's the sniffing and the knob holding that give the game away.

As for my latest ex I don't miss the farting, the boozing until the early hours, coming in aggressive and shouting, blaming me for everything, telling lies about me to his family and friends, leaving clothes lying around, doing SFA around the home, never letting me know when he'd be home,. Fucking hell I hate the fucker still and I never want another man any where near me ever again!

The resentment of me running round and him sat there doing fuck all
The anxiety of what mood will he be in
The realisation that what he says and what he does are two different things
The agony of him going out all night and not calling

Fucking hell what was I thinking....! Thanks for the eye opener x