Things you don't miss

[crochetmonkey74]

So I am single and just coming into the enjoying it stage (5 months post break up) and I am enjoying living alone again- so much so that I am actively grateful to not have to put up with the following

1. The Farting - particularly night time ones
2. The endless routine cycle of what shall we have for tea/ watch on Netflix?
3. The insecurity of 'are they fancying someone else' work wives bollocks
4. The political ranting (this is specific to my DP but I know other friends DPs who have their own particular rants)

What don't you miss?

The incessant sex pestering despite having disgusting bad breath and body odour.
The laziness.
Conspiracy theories.
Not caring about me when I was very ill.
The drinking.

Wondering if he is lying to me yet again
Worrying about if he is actually where he says he is
Not having joint finances

I certainly don’t miss wondering if he actually remembered to lock the front/back door when he left the house after me (thank god I have good neighbours and live in a relatively low crime area!)
Cupboard doors being left open - how had I’d it to knock them shut when you’ve got what you want?
Putting the glasses on the wrong side of the dishwasher (one bit of the rack is lower than the other so tall glasses fit in better there)
Just leaving stuff on top of the dishwasher rather than even attempting to put it in.
Leaving the empty loo roll by the toilet and not replacing it
Never knowing what time he would get in from work - any time from 6pm to 10pm, oh unless it was darts night when he’d always be back early to go out.
The smell of um, his used tissues, maybe a penis beaker would have been better, made me want to gag every time.
His belief that un-scrunching washing so that there’s not 5 layers in each garment was pointless and it’d dry just as well as when spread out.
His belief that fairies did all the housework/shopping etc and that I got in from work and just sat on the sofa and did nothing.
Yep, miss him terribly!

@Tomyoneandonly
Same here.

The way he would stand deliberately in front of me and fart to annoy me

The endless loud sound of his Youtube/tiktok videos, he's not a teenage boy.

Endless sexx pestering and then never making me cum.

Never appreciating me being the breadwinner and house slave, he was still better than me apparently.

His belief that when he was cheating during several episodes it was my fault because I didn't make him feel wanted

Making me feel bad about my appearance, my weight and 'getting old' even though I'm five years younger than him!

That general unease and feeling of anxiety when he was acting suspicious and sniffing around another woman.

Mysonigistic views about women and judging every aspect of their behaviour whilst men are never to blame.

Leaving me to raise the DDs but criticising the first hint of bad behaviour from them.

Not making any effort with my family and friends.

Endless watching dodgy conspiracy theories and then arguing when trying to reason with him.

Expecting his clothes washed and food on the table but never, ever considering my needs.

Ignoring me if I wanted a meaningful conversation or any kind of emotional support.

Sounds a dream eh ladies? Form an orderly queue........

Oh dear, the list is SO long, but a quick summary : cleaning the toilets after his mess (disgusting), having to pick his flannel off the shower floor (which he used instead of toilet paper) totally gross, his drinking, bedwetting, his laziness, the lies, his verbal violence when drunk, his gaslighting, his family, his farting (and having to clean underwear or trousers). His cheating. Why did I stay for so long?

The moods and constant tiptoeing around his mental health, which trumped everything else - even my own mental health.

The constant, almost unconscious sniping at me and disparaging of my habits / opinions.

The judging

TBF my ex was an excellent co-habiter, literally everything was.split 50/50 and he's.not a bad man. But his terrible management of his MH eroded any love I had for him

[quote sunrayscome]@SteelMack
Yes he had debts too with his business - didn't own his own house - nearly 50 and had nothing to offer really.
I could never understand the ritual of drinking 10 cans of lager, then eating a heavy meal at 11.30pm - he used to send texts at 11pm 'are you awake' and make drunken phone calls - he would make nasty comments about me going to bed early (we did not live together thank god!)
I was actually devastated when we split up but my god it was a blessing[/quote]
Bless you, you're well rid!! Onwards and upwards

Great thread

Don't miss

The bloody clothes on the floor drove every damn day

Walking in eggshells because someone somewhere had upset him (never his fault)

Turning the TV over when you're watching something

Leaving mail on the kitchen worktop so it resembles a royal mail sorting office

Not being able to get in the garage because it was packed full of stuff to do with his hobby

Always being a miserable sod whose fingers were glued to his phone

Never supporting me emotionally - had about as much empathy and compassion as an ice cube

Wow, how lucky I am to be rid of it.......

This thread makes me so pleased to be single. 27 and never lived with a man yet and really don't plan on ever doing so if I can help it. Well done all of you for binning these losers.

Not having to waste a weekend watching him do his hobby, whilst being a glorified cook/nanny for him and his mates

Not realising that my wages are paying bills/pensions for him as he saves nothing

Not having to live with a miserable fucker

Not having the be embarrassed going out as he's a social hand-grenade

Not having to listen to him thinking he's being all intelligent and banging on about wine that he has no idea about

Not having to listen to his awful mispronunciation and using the wrong words