How often do you and your other half speak in the day?

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Basically that..

How often do you and your other half speak in the day?

Taking into consideration work and other responsibilities, do you talk often?

Just needed some insight as to whether im expecting too much haha

We both work on laptops and have Zoom/Skype/Messenger open as part of work so we constantly send little messages as and when work allows.

No calls though.

We're probably the exception to the rule but we speak constantly. We're both WFH now so usually the longest is about an hour before we pop heads into each other's room and just see how we're doing.

In normal circumstances when we're both out the house 8-5pm it would be texting throughout the day. Longest we go is maybe 2/3 hours if one is in a meeting/busy at work. But always just idly texting.

Same as StormcloakNord, both WFH so pop in every hour or so to ask if the other wants anything to eat/drink/is doing okay. In normal times when we weren’t at home together, text pretty regularly (every hour or two) and call maybe once a day just as a quick ‘hi/miss you/what do you fancy for dinner/how’s your day going’ sort of thing

Aww yeah texting the odd time to me is what i think is normal.

My partner is in trades and ive always battled with the little communication as he's always busy! Wasnt sure if i was expecting too much haha!

Surely it would depend on what sort of jobs and shifts you both have?

Never

When we both WFH (different rooms, same level of the house) we speak when we meet in the kitchen, or every so often one of us will wander into the other’s room and we’ll have a chat. When I’m working in the office, we don’t generally communicate much unless we specifically have something to say or I’m letting him know what time I’ll be home. Neither of us are particularly big texters. As such, neither of us expect to hear from the other if one of us is out or with friends.

It’s about discussing and managing your expectations. Then you try to meet somewhere in the middle.

If I'm working in the office, not at all. I'm usually flat out so might send a text at 5.30 suggesting a takeaway or saying I'm going to be late.
A previous boyfriend was offended by this, thought I was ignoring him.

Today DH has gone to his workplace, we won’t talk for the 12 hours he is out of the house, unless it is an emergency. He doesn’t have his phone on him when working and at the end of the day he prioritises getting home.
When he wfh we generally catch up when he takes a break and I’m not on a call/meeting, but can go hours without talking too.
My job can be much less intense I do 8 hours of my choice which is why I am on here now, and I often catch up with a quick message to my friends or DC during the day

Don’t speak at all during the day. We don’t live together so have a 5 minute text exchange before work. Nothing during the day as we are both, well, working. I just sent him a “finished” about 15 minutes ago and I imagine he’ll reply with something exciting like “me too” at about 5.30.

Im not seeing him tonight so he will probably text me on his way to his training tonight and then phone me from the car for a fascinating blow by blow account of how many press ups and burpees he did. We will then have a couple more texts before saying good night.

Generally that’s how we work in the week and spend one night and most of the weekend together

Not at all! (Unless we need to send an urgentish practical message, like ‘could you pick up some fish fingers, please’ )

We are working.

And can get through a working day without social / romantic / chatty contact.

Rarely. I will text if I need him to grab something on his way home. He will call as he is leaving work (time can vary). Only other time we call is if something urgent has come up either with kids/ extended family / change of plans. Has always been that way. His work is customer facing so not available to just chat and I used to work in some locations with minimal signal

When DH is at work text/ WhatsApp through the day, just little messages here and there. Similar when he's WFH but it's more chat than texts.

If he's on site though, nothing as there's rarely proper signal and he locks his phone away for safety. It's the same as when I was teaching, I wouldn't abandon my learners to suggest we got a takeaway.

All day. Pre-covid we would chat on LinkedIn throughout the work day, whatsapp at breaks, but now we have been at home since March 2020 and we still talk all day long. About five years of it.

When I say all-day I do mean short messages, funny things that happened, that kind of stuff. Not serious conversations.

Not at all unless it’s urgent.

Hardly at all
Might text to say I've been to supermarket so he knows he doesn't need to go on way home

At lunchtime if there are no meetings, if not then not until he is on the way home (I finish earlier and collect kids) - then he calls to say he's on his way and we have a chat about who's running who where

My partner is in medical sales, and is out on the road a lot, but he'll ring at least once or twice through the day when he has time between meetings

We talk a little on the morning over coffee before work.

He leaves at 7:30, then we text to exchange how our days are going at around 1pm (I sent an extra text today to remind him to book off our holiday dates and some information on our mortgage) - then he’ll text to ask if we need anything for tea at about 6pm on his way home.

Then we have general chit chat, fun and games with DD when he gets home and over dinner, then we put DD to bed and talk more before we go to bed.

So not a lot, but enough 😂

A few texts and often a phone call at some point. I do miss hearing from him on days where he’s flat out and too busy.

We both work FT and we only text when necessary during the working day. Most workdays, we don’t communicate at all.

only for emergencies

I say goodbye in the morning when I leave for work and ring sometime on my way home in case there's anything we need me to pick up. Otherwise it's again when I get home from work. Used to be more when I had DS and he was young as DP liked to ring at lunch to check in and make sure we were ok.

I don’t see him in the morning as he leaves before I do. We talk when we see each other in the evening.

I’ve had a look on my phone and I’ve texted him once since the 6th November 2020 (and he didn’t reply)