My partner has been messaging and paying for numerous only fans accounts

[HennyLenry]

Hi

I'm 26, I live with my partner who is 24. We have a house together and have lived here almost 3 years. This morning I discovered he has a separate insta account, and has also been paying for numerous only fans pages and messaging the girls.

In his photos he had tons of selfies saved off girls Instagram accounts, one of them being my best friend and another even my boss!

The only fans girls are all girls with ridiculous big boobs and huge BBL arses.

I've known something was up for a while, I just got the proof today, and I just need to leave. Why am I so scared? There's no coming back from this.

I got annoyed that bf had a magazine (women only wearing skimpy pants) laying around, it put me off him and the relationship slowly died because of it. That was in the early 2000’s . It depends on how you feel about him having these pics, some say they’re only pics no harm but it’s how you feel.

Oh they all say nasty stuff when you dare to leave them. My ExH came out with some corkers, and he was the cheater and we'd been together 20 years! It's all BS.

I hope you are getting any equity from the house!

I got annoyed that bf had a magazine (women only wearing skimpy pants) laying around, it put me off him and the relationship slowly died because of it. That was in the early 2000’s . It depends on how you feel about him having these pics, some say they’re only pics no harm but it’s how you feel

Having a few pics, is not remotely the same as talking to women and interacting with them on websites!!

Don't sell the house - buy him out and rent a room to a friend to pay half the mortgage

*misses point completely

@HennyLenry

Hi everyone,

Update: I ended things last night. At first, he lied then I told him I found his old phone and he just put his head in his hands and said he was sorry, I asked him why he did it he says "I don't know" ... he says he needs help.

I'm not prepared to stay and "help him" .. this has been going on for 3 years, we've only been together 4. He started turning it around on me by saying I'm not bothered, I don't care and I don't want to "help him" and I just want to "give up" ... but I really don't think this is forgivable.

He's been sending money to women on adultwork (escort/SW site) too.

Yuk! Get out and buy him out of the house 🏠

He sounds truly awful OP! I presume you will force sale of the house to get your fair share. I'd do that ASAP to ensure he can't force you off as he'd like.
Good luck to you - and well done for being so strong!!

I'm guessing you have a whole heap of us on here cheering you on. Well done and as the saying goes. The only way is up !

Well done OP. As someone who has been through something similar, I would like to Hi-5 you!

Good luck on your hairdressing course - I started training to be a teacher at 25, I wasn't the oldest there by a long shot and very much doubt you will be either.

Now sit back and watch his life unravel whilst you go from strength to strength.

Him and his dad think you can go to court to 'force someone of the mortgage' so not only is he a creep, he's also thick as shit??

Well done to you for getting out of there and onto your own two feet so quickly And I'm pleased you ignored his nasty comment about hairdressing, it's great profession to go into...we all love our hairdressers a little bit more now haha

Urgh well done you to see him for what he was, great things are ahead for you I'm sure

His behaviour to date and those very nasty comments when he realised the "support me through my addiction, I have an addiction!" bullshit wasn't working; confirm that he is really not the sort of man to have kids with, which most people want to do sooner or later. Can only imagine what he's be thinking about and how he'd be acting when his unfortunate partner was pregnant, recovering from birth, maybe trying to breast feed etc.

He's a bit of a scum bag.

Also 26 is not old to get into a job or change job, I know plenty of people who've been older.

He's a fkg twat.

You can really tell his calibre from him spitting out bile and malice about anything he could think of about you when he realised you were getting rid of him.

And yeah money to adultwork sex workers for pics/videos/camming etc (if that's really all) is a likely path to using them in person. He sounds like a very likely candidate to become a brothel/prostitute crawler, with a nice little decompartmentalised "hobby" behind his partner's back

Well done you
Your life will be so much better. How well you have dealt with this awful and difficult situation. Hope your self esteem is sky high! I am proud of you just reading this, be proud of yourself for not putting up with that.

Well done you ! His comments just show you the nasty person he is. He sounds vile. Love the best life possible and achieve whatever you want now you’re free!

Live

What a vile pathetic excuse for a bloke. Please please please disregard all the nastiness and go on to be utterly totally fabulous without.
I feel sorry for his next victim.

*him

I am so pleased for you HennyLenry! And well done for enduring his behaviour throughout your exit - it can't have been easy he's done his damnedest to make it as unpleasant and threatening as possible for you. Many would have buckled under such an onslaught, so - respect!

Those messages between your ex and his father - well, the apple hasn't fallen far from the tree, has it? But they're both stupid. The house is half yours.

Whilst financially it could be better to buy him out (it might not be, I don't know) I'd be wary about going down that path - he sounds the type to trash it on his way out.I'd either force the sale (and he's likely to be a dick over that) or negotiate him buying you out (and yes, he'll be a dick about that too). Get advice (you sound so sensible I'm sure you would anyway) and don't be bounced into anything by Dickhead & Father.

So pleased for you!