I have googled mediator but it's all pre-court stuff.
I don't think my mother is quite a narcissist, but she is a people pleaser except to me. ie, she has used me as a tool in her people pleasing and then got furious with me when I point that out to her.
I was accused of not being happy for her. My points were not acknowledged at all. She has done things that I have asked her twice not to do. She has labelled me (paranoid, sensitive, difficult) for years whenever I challenge her or the status quo. My father is a weak man who backs her up regardless but together they're a strong force against me (I'm single).
My brother who thinks he's such a logical rational person sees the current estrangement through my mum's eyes. ie, I hurt mum. Even thought I told her that she had hurt me and that's what started it.
By telling my mum that she hurt me, I hurt her. My family have all ignored the first part but reacted in defense of my mum, all aggrieved on her behalf that I hurt her.
I see all the dysfunction in the family, I'm the scapegoat I know.
I can't talk to them because I get so angry at being stonewalled.
Could a mediator get them through a series of ordered questions to acknowledge that it's not ok to label somebody else, and that if they do that, the other person can reasonably have a hurt reaction to that. And that if the person you're hurting doesn't accept that they have no right to feel hurt after ''all we've done'' then the hurt person has the right to take a step back.
I feel like they're reasonable people except with me
I don't want to have to give up on the only family I have when I know that they're not all bad. They have a blind spot and the blindspot affects ME. But they're not 100% bad.