I hate morning sex!

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I don't know if this is the right topic but yeah, I hate morning sex! And everyone around me loves it, so surely there must be other people who don't like it?!
I'm such a morning person, not moody when I've woke up or anything.. I just like to chill on my phone at the weekend when I'm awake but every now and again DP will be like 👀 you fancy some morning sex 👀 but my heart drops, we laugh about it now because when he asks he says "I know, I know" cos he knows it's a big fat no but I feel so bad for him because clearly he wants it & I think am I being selfish not giving it a try but I just find it so awkward and just don't really enjoy it much or have any orgasm from morning sex, I think it's a confidence issue aswell as it's so light in the morning and morning sex involves eye contact as you can clearly see eachothers every thing! Me and DP have been together 2 years so are very comfortable and have a great sex life I've just never been a morning sex girl.. can anyone relate or am I just being selfish and need to get over it and give it a go? 😂

I quite like morning sex but not the morning breath! I make my DH use mouthwash or no kissing hahahah!

If you can orgasm other times it’s definitely in your head affection if all. Give it a go and maybe try laying on your side not facing each other? Like spooning?

@Mrsdarwin morning breath yes! Dry but sticky lips 🤢 yeahh I've tried spooning before but still just feel so awkward and clammy haha.. But spooning during evening sex is a whole different experience and I can't get enough! Don't know what's wrong with me 😂

@Mrsdarwin don't know if this matters but I'm 27 and DP is 30 so we're not young and inexperienced or not comfortable like I've just always been shit at morning sex haha it's a weird one

I kinda think you are being a bit shy of someone you've known so long, if you don't do it with the lights on anyway. Think I've done it in the dark on the odd occasion, but that seemed odd somehow as I'm used to being able to see who I'm with and find eye contact gives intimacy - otherwise it feels like a functional shag. Maybe, put the lamp on of a night so you actually get used to seeing each other - it's a bit weird not to tbh.

Just have the curtains closed

I just close my eyes. 😂

I think you don’t have to have sex when you don’t want to.

Why does your partner ask you if he knows you don’t like it ? He sounds a bit selfish.

Do you ask him to do things in bed that he has already told you he doesn't like?

Half asleep, no oral efforts required, no eye contact necessary, happy days. Literally as it sets me up for the day

I love a morning shag and hate evenings (bedtime is for sleep, not fun!)

We all have our preferences and if you've tried it and don't like it, then stick to what you do like. Although I'm sure your DP would appreciate you making an effort once in a while, just as I'm sure he makes an effort to have it in the evening for your benefit. I hope!

I do think it's a bit sad that you feel awkward about seeing each other and making eye contact, to me that's really essential with a regular partner as it builds intimacy between you. I want to see my partner's body, and be seen by them. And let's not even think about trying to put a condom on in the dark, it's difficult enough with the lights on!

You are the opposite of me. I loathe sex before going to sleep, I am always much more up for it in thee morning when I am well rested and not desperate for sleep.
Horses for courses and all that I suppose . Maybe some compromise?

I don't like morning sex. Infact the just thinking about morning sex is a turn off. Sex makes me feel tired so if I have it in the morning I feel tired all day. Then there's bad breath body sweat and tmi gas. I'm in a situation where my dp enjoys and prefers morning sex then the evening or night. I'm not going to be haveing it for a long time now. I've tried morning and it's just not for me.

So don't have morning sex. And don't listen to the morning sex enthusiasts on this thread.

Nope don’t agree, it’s probably more to do with you being insecure about your DP seeing everything. Also I love eye contact, that’s sexy!

I'm the other way round.

Mornings, especially at the weekend -warm, relaxed, half asleep, no rush and he fetches me coffee afterwards and then we plan our day.

Evenings especially in the week - I'm tired, stressed, got an early start and always worrying ds is still awake and will hear.

Time of day doesn't matter to me. A decent, caring partner does. Why not both compromise and surely it can only help in your relationship.

I hate it too! I don't know why. Like you I'm a morning person so maybe my brain is just too active with things to be done with the day ahead! One of the benefits of having kids was that they ruled it out! I don't think you need to feel bad about it, we all have likes and dislikes. I occasionally agreed to it to make my DH happy and because it's not that awful! But it wouldn't really be my preference!

Never liked it myself either.

Yeah not for me either

Yep its gross.. the clamminess, the breath, etc gives me the ick. Hate it

Curtains closed!

Have a child, morning sex will not be a consideration for years

Hate it too... I like a lie in in the weekend and lazy coffee. But I am not a morning person in general and wake up less then energised, until coffee and a bit of breakfast.
I am ok with midday though...

Morning or mid day to me. Not a fan of late at night. It's the last thing I want to do when I'm tired.

I never got the whole sex right as youre about to sleep thing... But then again I've focused a lot on good sleep habits and fall asleep within 5-10 seconds of laying down now. It use to take me hours.