I hate morning sex!

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I don't know if this is the right topic but yeah, I hate morning sex! And everyone around me loves it, so surely there must be other people who don't like it?!
I'm such a morning person, not moody when I've woke up or anything.. I just like to chill on my phone at the weekend when I'm awake but every now and again DP will be like 👀 you fancy some morning sex 👀 but my heart drops, we laugh about it now because when he asks he says "I know, I know" cos he knows it's a big fat no but I feel so bad for him because clearly he wants it & I think am I being selfish not giving it a try but I just find it so awkward and just don't really enjoy it much or have any orgasm from morning sex, I think it's a confidence issue aswell as it's so light in the morning and morning sex involves eye contact as you can clearly see eachothers every thing! Me and DP have been together 2 years so are very comfortable and have a great sex life I've just never been a morning sex girl.. can anyone relate or am I just being selfish and need to get over it and give it a go? 😂

Haha I'm the same. Id be insisting on us cleaning teeth first. Can't stand smelly breath and everyone's breath stinks in the morning (yuck) plus just feel like my face in general is rough first thing. Puffy eyes. Pale. No makeup. I feel much sexier at night. Can be showered. Fresh faced. Fresh breath and sexier lightning.

But yeah mainly the smelly breath. No thanks lol x

For me everything has to be clean and smell fresh, so brushing teeth and taking a shower.

I read recently that morning sex is better from the male perspective as their testosterone levels are higher!
I don't mind it but miss the kissing aspect with morning breath!

Hate it I'm not a morning person at all just about have energy to make coffee never mind sex.

Yes I hate it. It just feels wrong to me. I love it the rest of the time, just not morning.
Luckily DP hates morning sex too.

We are all different. For me, night time bed is usually for sleeping. I try to avoid sex being something you just do when you go to bed at night.

I like morning sex after a shower and cleaning my teeth etc but not before. Mornings are very often my often my “me time”.

I prefer evening sex after work but before dinner and/or before lunch if l’m at home at weekends.

I ended up hating it as that's the only time he wanted to do it.

Haha OP I feel you! Personally I need a cuppa and food before anything happens. We usually end up having sex before showering most times- don’t like having sex when I’m all clean and done up!

First off, if you don't like it, you don't have to do it. That's non negotiable and needing to "get over it and give it a go" is not a thing when it comes to sex. You do what you want to do with your own body.

But it sounds like you want to explore it but just aren't feeling comfortable... if that's the case then it might be worth doing some work around where these issues are coming from around being seen.

From what you've said it sounds like it's a confidence issue about the light more than the time of day. Do you always turn the light off at night too? Do you struggle with your body image?

If so, maybe there are some things there you might want to explore regardless of whether or not it leads to morning sex - why you feel that way with your partner, that you can't let him see you. It could be worth looking into seeing a psychotherapist/ counsellor to explore some of this if you do want to explore it. There are counsellors who specialise in sex and relationships who would be able to help you if it is something you want.

i prefer afternoon sex, but rarely get the chance. I dont mind morning sex if its snuggly and sleepy and i dont have to do anything, but its more of an extended cuddle rather than sex i can properly get into.
I think we all have our favourites, but if you actually dont like it, then dont do it. Youre not obliged hopefully

Completely OT but @Shelddd can I ask what else did you do to improve your sleep habits? I have horrible insomnia at the moment so searching for tips!

@Crinkletinkle - Have you tried watching Midsomer Murders? 😂

Black out blinds - a quick brush of the teeth and squirt of perfume!??
I used to be really nervous in some relationships and needed a few drinks to build my confidence but always thought what was the point as they initiated sex in the morning whilst I was sober with a horrible hangover. !!!

Love it, especially on a Sunday morning.

Just ask him if he's teasing or if he really means it and either way it's a bit annoying as you feel pressured.

I like morning sex much more than last thing at night sex but who cares, he's not having sex with me.

I’m not a massive fan either but i think it’s because i’m so lazy and tired in the morning. Not exactly what you want to be doing when you just want to lie about

Urgh, I hate it. I struggle to wake up in the mornings and I'm always so tired as it is. Plus morning breath.. and need a morning wee... just no. And a massive no to anyone who kept asking for it when I'd already said no!

I like morning over evening sex but my partner isn't a morning person and it would take a juggernaut to wake him so it rarely happens, sadly. I am usually too tired at bed time as I am a single parent with a f/t job and house to look after so bed time is for reading/sleeping and it takes some effort to build enthusiasm for sex.

In the past, morning se has usually involved spooning to avoid the morning breath issue and i love the half-asleep element to it. Puts a smile on my face all day.

Generally, I prefer any other time of day to night time for sex!

I'm with you. My main sexual preference is not in the morning.
The only time it worked out for my DH was when we worked split shifts, so I'd be up at 5, come home for a shag at 11 when he was just getting up and for me it felt like the afternoon.

I hate morning sex, I’m not a morning person- DP says I resemble the girl out of the ring in the morning so it’s evenings for us!

Nah we don't like it and we don't do it. 8 years together, not shy at all but we're both moody in the morning, I'd probably fall asleep again, breath smells, both a bit sweaty and warm.

Bleugh cba.

I cannot comprehend how people have sex in the morning without thorough teeth brushing beforehand. Makes my stomach turn.

I cannot comprehend how people have sex in the morning without thorough teeth brushing beforehand. Makes my stomach turn

Same. Absolutely revolting. The smell of the other person's breath and the taste/gack/yuck in my own.

It's all about smells for me. I like the smell of minty breath. Lynx Africa (any shower smell to be fair) and aftershave.

I also want to smell nice.

I couldn't kiss anyone before cleaning teeth. It's bad enough when my toddler breathes on me first thing!

But I guess if we were clean and smelling good sleepy sex would be ok.

I'm the kind of girl who likes to have showered in the last couple of hours too. I like to be fresh.