Would you forgive this?

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DS was at home while I was working yesterday. DH was also at home but not working although he had a bad stomach so not feeling his best.

I asked DH to distract DS in the morning as I had an online meeting, which he did. He took him out in the garden to mow the lawn.

My meeting finished early but then the boss rang me, by which time DS was being irritable and wanting to come back in. I tried to signal to DH just 2 minutes.

He opened the door and said I was not prioritising DS and he actually shut my laptop shut when I was in the middle of a chat with my boss and screamed at me that DS needed his nappy changing. What then follows was a torrent of abuse, even though we had agreed the garden option the evening before.

How would you react to this?

Get out, he is horrendous and children should not be exposed to behaviour like that.

I wouldn't be able to forgive, unless there was some really serious remorse and a heartfelt apology.

From what you've said about him, I don't see an apology or remorse forthcoming.

He has history if being condescending and unpleasant, so I wouldn't make an announcement about leaving, but I would start emotionally detaching from him and putting plans in place towards leaving him.

His behaviour just shows a total lack of respect for you and your job. That's not okay. His attitude is "you're a woman...you change his nappy"
He's living in the Victorian times.

This is completely unacceptable, you need to leave.

@Lalliella

My issue with LTB is - why does the victim of abuse always have to be the one to leave? See a solicitor and tell him you want him gone OP.

I think most people use LTB as a shorthand way of saying end the relationship. Whether that is actually leaving, or kicking the other person out depends on circumstances.

Divorce the scum. Making a kid live in an abusive house is inexcusable, I was made to and it’s damaged me for life.