Would you forgive this?

[fucksat50]

DS was at home while I was working yesterday. DH was also at home but not working although he had a bad stomach so not feeling his best.

I asked DH to distract DS in the morning as I had an online meeting, which he did. He took him out in the garden to mow the lawn.

My meeting finished early but then the boss rang me, by which time DS was being irritable and wanting to come back in. I tried to signal to DH just 2 minutes.

He opened the door and said I was not prioritising DS and he actually shut my laptop shut when I was in the middle of a chat with my boss and screamed at me that DS needed his nappy changing. What then follows was a torrent of abuse, even though we had agreed the garden option the evening before.

How would you react to this?

Nope I would not. Sounds like a right dickhead. LTB.

He interrupted a call with your boss? Called you a dumb fuck? No way is that acceptable op.

I rarely say this but LTB.
He obviously is so comfortable with disrespecting you that he even does it when your boss can hear how he humiliated you.

He is a fucking wanker and you deserve better.

I shouldn’t say disrespecting you.
It’s worse then that.
It’s abuse plain and simple.

No, no I wouldn't.

What a dick.

He is quite comfortable humiliating you in front of your boss and completely undermining your job.

Add the name calling and you've got the full deck.

Sorry OP, he's an absolute c*nt.

He's abusive and today it's escalated as he's done it in front of your boss.

You need to get away from him

I'm sorry Op but I would not be asking for an apology, I'd be asking for a divorce. This is totally abusive and out of order.
You should not have to live like this.

Absolutely not! That is way out of line

Just to add to my previous advice, the day I decided to leave my abusive ex husband was when he called me a fucking bitch in front of my entire family. It was a complete wake-up call. I hope this is for you as well.

Leave before your child learns to be the same. You deserve so much better than this OP.

My issue with LTB is - why does the victim of abuse always have to be the one to leave? See a solicitor and tell him you want him gone OP.

I think LTB means dump this piece of trash.
But I agree with you that the OP should get as much as she can out of the divorce settlement and if she and her child can stay in the home then all the better. They deserve peace after living together with this vile abuser.

I bet there is a lot more controlling behaviour OP can tell us about.
This is not going to get better- don't let your DS think this is a normal way to treat the people you love.

@WaterBottle123

I'd kick him out. He's a nasty, sexist, abusive cock womble who doesn't think your work is important.

This

Leave. He’s an abusive arse.

If he can mow the lawn he’s not very ill.

No, I would not be happy with this at all. Why can he not change the nappy?

Not an isolated incident, he is always shouting at me like I'm a child

He's a horrible piece of shit. Think about what your child is learning about relationships. Please get this revolting person out of your life.

I’m amazed you need to ask really. In what world would this ever be ok?

It's to pick up on in that, but bottom line is that his behaviour is completely unacceptable.

Lots of people have had a terrible year & aren't quite themselves, but this is way beyond that.

Maybe some people tolerate a lot more than others, but anyone calling me 'useless dumb fuck' would be gone!! (He'd also be gone for slamming my lap top lid & cutting my call off as well as other things individually, let alone all of them) And would not be seeing our child unless formally supervised.

Separately why does he think you should prioritise you DS (aka look after him) while you are working? And why couldn't he change DS's nappy?

Can't imagine anyone saying saying yabu OP!
But this would be my moment of realisation and l would be making plans to get rid of him ASAP.

Why do you need to ask?

Wow.

NO.

I would not forgive it. Forgive what, that he has zero respect for you and condiers himself the fucking Cock Swinging King of it all?

Get him out. Self-important deluded abusive pigs like this are no damn use to anyone, least of all an actual grown up with a job to do and a family to raise. Get rid.

@fucksat50

Not an isolated incident, he is always shouting at me like I'm a child but the laptop incident really crossed a line with me.

I'm so angry and upset about it.

Why are you with him? Do you think you deserve this type of behaviour? Can you see a long an happy life with this man feeling appreciated and loved?

If not it's really time to think about what your options are. This is totally unacceptable on every level, even if he say's sorry. All abusers are sorry after. Then they do it again because you keep forgiving them.

You need to leave, you need to protect your child. They shouldn’t be growing up in this environment.