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Mortified

91 replies

Imjustsootired · 29/04/2021 22:04

I need a quick scan of opinions here as I'm feeling so embarrassed!!!

Been chatting to a guy for a few months now met for a drink, went well, chatty texts continued. Tonight we were chatting about sex Blush and kind of, what we like. He was describing it and used the word 'hungry'. I replied with

'Hungry. Good description... hot sweaty sex can be great!'

He replies with a shocked face emoji and "ladies pespire" ... "just saying". Then some stupid GIF with an American woman saying in a southern drawl..."I was sweating like a whore in church!".

I was mortified so sent back

"Wow. Ok, fine. I stand corrected"

He read it. Didnt respond !!!!

Now I feel like trailer trash

Was using the word "sweaty" really THAT bad? Oh god!!!

OP posts:
Windmillwhirl · 29/04/2021 22:57

That's hardly mortifying! I wouldn't have even raised a blush at that, op.

DumplingsAndStew · 29/04/2021 23:14

Is this the same married man you were cheating on your husband with last month? The one you said you'd been speaking to for over a year?

SunnyJill · 29/04/2021 23:18

Well if the PP is correct and he's married leaving you on read is the least of your worries.

WhatWouldPhyllisCraneDo · 29/04/2021 23:21

@DumplingsAndStew

Is this the same married man you were cheating on your husband with last month? The one you said you'd been speaking to for over a year?
The plot thickens!
youvegottenminuteslynn · 29/04/2021 23:51

If this is the guy you've been cheating with who you said elsewhere you realised is a cunt... stop this drama. It's madness. You're married and if you're still talking to this guy, or another one, it's time to address your actual relationship and either leave or stop cheating. You must be so stressed with lying all the time and covering up for stuff?

Cam2020 · 29/04/2021 23:57

I think it was a joke but difficult to tell unless you know that person.

insomniaisaballbag · 30/04/2021 00:09

Married eh Grin why don't people name change?! 😂

AngusThermopyle · 30/04/2021 09:21

Is this your affair partner who you blocked before or a new one.?
Either way, you should really be 'mortified' about the treatment of your husband, not your sexting colleagues.

YoniAndGuy · 30/04/2021 10:04

BUSTED Grin

To the naughty step, OP.

harknesswitch · 30/04/2021 10:29

My dh takes the piss when I say I'm sweating. He says the same 'you don't sweat dear, you perspire' but he puts on a posh accent and I know he's ribbing me.

You are not being unreasonable to say you sweat. If he genuinely meant it he's a tit.

PinotPony · 30/04/2021 11:16

He was joking. And your reaction was OTT which would explain why he didn't reply.

goldielockdown2 · 30/04/2021 11:31

I'd have left it at that and then changed the subject after a while if you'd replied to me like that as well. Weird attitude and snappy.

Pesimistic · 30/04/2021 16:46

I bet he has a penis beaker.. you wouldn't have good sex with him if he is put off by a bit of sweat

ShadierThanaPalmTree · 30/04/2021 16:54

At least you aren't wasting your time op, if he really doesn't know that women sweat then he clearly doesn't have much to offer in the bedroom.

JackieWeaversZoomAc · 30/04/2021 16:57

Yes a pendant would say perspire but only a TWAT would correct you.

This Grin

move on I think OP

Allwokedup · 30/04/2021 17:01

Sounds like he was joining...

Allwokedup · 30/04/2021 17:02

Joking*

Original poster
Imjustsootired · 30/04/2021 23:46

Busted Grin

No. If I was worried about judgement, I would have name changed!

Yes I'm married. No this isn't the guy who I've blocked.... although annoyingly, I wish it was. This is someone new....

I wasnt looking for opinions on my moral choices Wink I've made the decision to have a lover aswell as hubby and thats my choice

The ups and downs and dating angst are pretty much the same and I was a bit embarrassed last night, but as you all said, he was fucking about...I went OTT but today, we're good.

Wine off the soap boxes now you lot x

OP posts:
youvegottenminuteslynn · 01/05/2021 00:24

I've made the decision to have a lover aswell as hubby and thats my choice

Is it his choice too? Or is he in the dark?

Mollymalone123 · 01/05/2021 00:33

Is your husband in agreement then?

Flowers500 · 01/05/2021 01:10

Well he was joking but the issue is clearly you and your extramarital shagging

DumplingsAndStew · 01/05/2021 01:42

Hilarious that last month you were taking the stance of being pissed off that your bit on the side wasn't happy with 'just you', where he was enough for you (and hubby, naturally). Yet you've been messing around with this one for "a few months".

goldielockdown2 · 01/05/2021 08:25

People with guilty consciences will always be looking to find fault with others, and take it out on them.

winniestone37 · 01/05/2021 08:29

Ok relax. I think he was joking but even if he wasn’t, so what. Have faith in who you are, stand up for yourself. I don’t mean by being cross or dramatic I mean if someone judges you on that then they’re a dick. You’re better than that. You don't need him to validate who you are.

stillcrazyafterall · 01/05/2021 08:30

@Asposhasitgets

He sounds a bit of a nob. Not least because the saying actually goes; “Meat sweats, men perspire while ladies gently glow”, so according to that, women aren’t meant to perspire either. Yes I know I’m a pedant Not sure what hot glowing sex would be like though Confused
I think you'll find the saying is 'HORSES sweat, my meat doesn't sweat... Confused