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Is 34 too old?

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Cherryblossoms2021 · 28/04/2021 11:38

Im about to turn 34 in the next few weeks.

I keep reading on here that people, even younger than me, are panicking about time running out.

I don’t think I really felt like this before and I’m just wondering if I’m being silly and if things really are too late.

Ive had one long term relationship and one disastrous shorter relationship. I feel like I’ve learnt a lot on in the past few years, been through a lot. In many ways, I’m now in a much better position - finally got a place of my own and a dog which I’ve always wanted.

However there’s still lots of things that aren’t really settled. My job is unstable and I don’t have much prospects relationship wise.

Im just wondering whether this is it. It feels silly saying that, when I might not even have lived half my life yet. I guess I just want to know if I still have time to make the best life for myself whatever that might be or if not.

My ex boyfriend when I was 31 constantly said we were getting old and leaving it too late to have kids.

I guess what I have on my side is I am not fussed about children. In fact I know that whilst I might regret never having them, I definitely know I don’t want children with the wrong person or if I’m not financially able to give them a certain standard of life. So whilst I may regret never having the opportunity to have them, I don’t think I would regret not having them per se if that makes sense.

I feel like I spent my entire 20s in a dead end relationship with a man much older and never really lived or enjoyed dating someone in the way that most couples do especially when they’re young.

It does seem like now people my age don’t really want to go out and my life is quite staid.

I don’t really quite know what I’m asking from this.

OP posts:
TaraR2020 · 30/04/2021 12:06

If all else fails.. we shall be cat ladies that drink wine

In all seriousness my friend and I have a backup plan which involves this and running a donkey sanctuary Grin

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