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Is it weird to date a 21 year old when I'm 24?

52 replies

swanlakesteps · 27/04/2021 14:03

I'm seeing someone who's 21, I didn't think much of the age gap because we're fairly similar in maturity and life stage (we're both students on the same course), but one of my friends called me a cradle-snatcher and said it's creepy to be dating someone that young. I'm just wondering if it's generally considered weird? It's making me feel a little self- concious.

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TheQueef · 27/04/2021 14:04

That friend is silly.
Pay no attention.

YouKnowNothingJonSnow1 · 27/04/2021 14:05

Eh? 21 and you’re 24... someone better had call the police ASAP! 🤣

Bagelsandbrie · 27/04/2021 14:05

Non issue.

Marineboy67 · 27/04/2021 16:08

Yea your friends jealous, tell her to keep her comments to herself and have fun.

Iknowtheanswer · 27/04/2021 16:11

Half your age plus 7. Sounds fine to me.

charlmorgan9 · 27/04/2021 16:13

There’s literally 3 years between you😂 what would be the problem? Any consenting adult can see any whatever other consenting adult they want.

Strokethefurrywall · 27/04/2021 16:15

Meh. I met my husband when I was 28 and he’d just turned 23.
I’m now 41 and he’s 36. I’m still more immature than him!

Theyarealltaken · 27/04/2021 16:15

Omg really?! At 25 I started dating a guy who was 37. Now I’m 30 and he’s 42 and we’re in a happy relationship waiting for our first child to be born :D

Spudlet · 27/04/2021 16:16

Same age gap as me and DH. Your friend is being a bit odd.

Kittytheteapot · 27/04/2021 16:16

Tosh (your friend). There is the same age gap between me and dh. We have been together over 30 years. When I was a teenager I wouldn't have dreamt of going out with a boy younger than me, but when I became an adult it ceased to matter. You are an adult. Your friend is not yet.

Maggiesfarm · 27/04/2021 16:17

It's perfectly OK, you are both young adults. Good luck to you.

FtmNov22 · 27/04/2021 16:25

Met my partner when I was 21 and he was 27. We now have a baby together. Age is just a number

name674398 · 27/04/2021 16:25

No! If he was 18 and you 21 you'd feel the age gap more I think, especially if one or both of you were at uni. But at 21+ 3 years isn't much at all!

Tomyoneandonly · 27/04/2021 16:30

Not really a age gap. I wouldn't call 3 years an age gap. Enjoy your self.

Happycat1212 · 27/04/2021 16:49

I don’t personally date younger men but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that age gap , it’s not big!

OldEvilOwl · 27/04/2021 16:52

Its fine, hardly a gap

iklboo · 27/04/2021 16:53

I'm 8 years older than DH. We met when I was 30. Your age gap is nothing!

shinynewapple21 · 27/04/2021 17:04

Sounds fine to me, it's only 3 years and you are both over 18.

MissMaple82 · 27/04/2021 17:21

When I was 26 I was dating a 19 year old!

SamMil · 27/04/2021 17:25

I wouldn't even really count this as an age gap. 3 years is nothing. Your friend is being weird.

newnortherner111 · 27/04/2021 17:26

No issue at all. A bit too narrow a gap if you want to be Prime Minister or President though (the age gap between Donald and Melania Trump, Emmanuel and Brigitte Macron, and Boris Johnson and Carrie Symonds is in each case over 20 years).

LeftyLou · 27/04/2021 17:30

You are practically the same age. Your friend makes no sense.

If you like each other ignore others unhelpful comments.

MadMadMadamMim · 27/04/2021 17:30

Non issue.

Your friend sounds jealously unpleasant, by the way. That's the relationship I'd be re-thinking.

Does she always have little digs and try and put you down?

Choice4567 · 27/04/2021 17:34

But you’re the same age?!! Well you are from where I’m looking at my age!!

BernardsarenotalwaysSaints · 27/04/2021 17:35

That's not really an age gap as such. I was 20 & Dh was 26 when we got together & even that's not a particularly big age gap really.