Is this a weird text to receive from MIL?

[whitepeonies44]

Is this a weird text to receive from MIL or am I just being hormonal from the pregnancy? I received this after I texted her an update on our latest scan. “Brilliant. Hope you all well and that you are not getting too many bruises from the kicking! Xx”

Not at all. Warm and humorous. Just the sort of thing I might say (not that I'm a MIL).

I cannot find a single thing wrong with the message. Really, truly.

Unless you have been abused in the past through being kicked either by this partner or a previous one and your MIL know that specifically then no this is not remotely passive aggressive or wierd - shes just being friendly.

It's a cute text. Why would you think it's weird?!

That is a lovely message. There must be one hell of a back story here.

@whitepeonies44 Did you think she meant that she thought your husband was being violent to you?

No, she was talking about the baby. x

[quote me4real]@whitepeonies44 Did you think she meant that she thought your husband was being violent to you?

No, she was talking about the baby. x[/quote]
Well, we know she was talking about the baby, but it's not at all clear what op thinks, actually.

I was going to write what me4real posted, only thing I could think about that would remotely be "weird".

@Icequeen01

I'm really curious to know what difference it makes that you didn't grow up in this country? I can't see how you could have read that text in any way other than it was meant?

I’m out of the U.K. at the moment and my boss isn’t English but several of my colleagues are. She finds the British sense of humour utterly baffling

Maybe OP was confused because she is very literal and knew that babies kick from the inside and don’t actually cause bruises. So she thought it was a reference to some sort of external kicking, rather than just realising that MIL made a joke based on a physiologically incorrect assumption...?

MIL made a joke based on a physiologically incorrect assumption...?
Bloody hell, the 'incorrect' part is what makes it a joke!

Poor mils can't do right for wrong whatever they say

You sound hard work.

Hormones affecting your emotions. Completely normal.

OP did say she realised it could be hormones and needs reasurrance, be nice.

I feel sorry for your MIL, if this is the way you are going to carry on.
A harmless, pleasant joke, Maybe you are not ‘hormonal’, just not very nice.

Sounds upbeat and maybe trying to make you smile.

How are you OP? Is this your first pregnancy?

Just a duff joke. You might also hear your baby being call 'a right little bruiser" when born. Doesn't mean its bruised, just means looks tough, strong etc. English is a beast to be honest and context is everything!

@Ladywinesalot

Sounds upbeat and maybe trying to make you smile.

How are you OP? Is this your first pregnancy?

Did you have to add the passive aggressive "How old are you OP? Is this your first pregnancy?"

That was uncalled for and you know it

MIL sounds lovely! It's a sweet text that shows a sense of humour.

If OP is close to finding offence in it, I'm a bit concerned for MIL. She might have a rocky road ahead.

Sounds perfectly fine?

Definitely the kind of thing my mil would say. Is fine.

I wish my MIL would be so kind.
My last message off her was ‘you’ve put too much weight on and you’re hurting your baby’ ... even though I’m currently weighing less than when I got pregnant.

As someone with a bad MIL relationship OP. Pick your battles. This isn’t even one.

Sounds fine to me.

Thank you everyone for your input. I didn't grow up in this country so I wasn't sure!

Please come back and let us know why you might think this odd @whitepeonies44. Is this a cultural thing where you are from that feeling a kicking baby is not discussed?

@CervixHaver can you read? You were incredibly rude to @Ladywinesalot