Is this a weird text to receive from MIL?

[whitepeonies44]

Is this a weird text to receive from MIL or am I just being hormonal from the pregnancy? I received this after I texted her an update on our latest scan. “Brilliant. Hope you all well and that you are not getting too many bruises from the kicking! Xx”

What a nasty old woman OP.

God forbid she takes things further and offers to help out when baby arrives, or cook you something ‘nice’

Ugh.

It’s a lovely, friendly message with a joke which was intended to convey sympathetic understanding in humorous form. If a committee of relationship counsellors tried to come up with the perfect answer to a family member prone to take the hump, this is probably what they’d come up with 😀

@whitepeonies44

Thank you everyone for your input. I didn't grow up in this country so I wasn't sure! I appreciate your feedback.

I'm really curious to know what difference it makes that you didn't grow up in this country? I can't see how you could have read that text in any way other than it was meant?

That's a lovely chirpy cari g text, wish my MIL had been that type! Rather than telling dh I raised dc completely wrong and should let them have sweets and whatever they want and not tell them off

Not too fussed about that sort of advice from a corpulently obese woman with equally obese children...

If you’re reading things into that, you must struggle to get through the day sometimes wondering whether people are being offensive or weird!!

Hi God, it's me again, I know it's been a while since you heard from me but please. Please please. Bless me with a DiL that doesn't question perfectly pleasant texts. And looks for wrongdoing where there isn't any. Amen.

@whitepeonies44

Thank you everyone for your input. I didn't grow up in this country so I wasn't sure! I appreciate your feedback.

Do babies not kick in the womb where you come from

I remember being in a training session at work when I was heavily pregnant and letting out a sudden woh! Everyone looked, I said " sorry, baby just kicked me hard '. It really is a thing, she was just being humourous, it doesn't hurt, but if it's out of the blue, it can take you by surprise

I’m really intrigued to know what you thought she meant!

Her text was fine. Congratulations and good luck with the baby.

@whitepeonies44 She's joking about the baby kicking you. What did you think she meant?

That's a nice message. What did you think was wrong with?

It's really sweet and she's showing she relates to you.

Purely out of interest, how might that have been understood/ meant in your country that made you question it? Not being snarky, just these little differences in meaning interest me!

That's a lovely text. My own MIL when told about any pregnancy scans etc would grunt and then walk off
She does love her grandchildren but clearly just doesn't like me.

That's a lovely text. She sounds like she is just treating you like family; being kind and a bit funny. Sounds like she cares.

What were you imagining is offensive about what she said? Are you just trying to create your own misery by making stuff up to be annoyed by?

I did not grow up in the United Kingdom and indeed grew up halfway across the world in an Asian country and even I cannot for one minute figure out what on earth is wrong with this text.

What did you think was the problem with it?

I wish I had a MIL who could send nice text messages like that, if you are concerned about that one some of my MIL texts would make your eyes pop out!

Perhaps you need to talk to your partner about his Mum’s sense of humour and get some pointers in case you misinterpreting other things that she says?

Did you think she was suggesting her son kicks you?

It's a lovely text. Nothing weird about it whatsoever.

I think it's nice. When I sent my MIL our latest scan photo last week, she told me baby had a beautifully shaped head 😍.

@whitepeonies44

Thank you everyone for your input. I didn't grow up in this country so I wasn't sure! I appreciate your feedback.

This country? Mumsnet is a .com

I grew up in Ireland. There’s still nothing wrong with that text. Probably universally,

No, not weird at all, I would take that as a nice text

, I agree with you OP, it sounds like a threat to me. If my MIL offered me a good kickin' and my DH did nothing I would LTB. You have a DH problem there. Maybe go no contact with MIL?