Very romantic, but not sexual.

[YouShouldLeave]

Okey, so i have a problem.

I would really like to be in a relationship, but without sex.

I’ve been asked out, i have had crushes, sometimes mutual, but they ALWAYS end when i tell them i do not have sex.

I feel strong romantic attraction, would love to be in a relationship.
My lonliness has really start to get to me, but i’m highly sex repulsed.

How on earth do i go on about this?
I can’t talk to anyone about this irl.

How do i found someone, or do i just accept that i have to be alone all my life?

@Gwenhwyfar

"I remember being younger and trying to date and i had no idea people had these want(since i’ve never experienced any of them). A lot of confusion on both sides."

Didn't you have an idea from television or talking to friends? It's one thing not wanting it yourself (I can relate to that), but I find it odd that you're disconnected from how other people are, unless you were very sheltered as a child.

You used perfect word: disconnected.

I didn’t pay that much attention to it.
It’s still odd that so much of entertaiment is about sex, just thought they were boring writers.

And in real life it was first odd and honestly we didn’t talk about it with my friend much, i figured it was a thing everybody does no for awhile (like when some band was popular overnight for couple of years) and the get over it.

Hi OP, I was just wondering if it was possible you has aspergers/ASD too. The fact that you hurt for a few days after someone squeezed your arm - that level of sensitivity to touch would be something I'd expect in someone on the spectrum. People with asd are also more likely to be asexual than others (or LGBT). And that you will hug and kiss your dog but wouldn't want to do that in a relationship.
The feeling of being disconnected and confused by how other people are feeling. Just something worth pondering perhaps, don't want to push you too far as you've only just found out you are asexual! x

I would suggest that your childhood might have at least partially contributed to your current preferences. I’m not implying that your parents were neglectful on purpose but lack of physical touch, physical contact between a caregiver and a child is a form of neglect. The concept of human touch as something positive, needed and desired seems to be foreign to you on an emotional and physical level …and on top of that you seem to have developed some quite fixed beliefs related to body contact.
It doesn’t mean that you have to change yourself; you may as well stay in acceptance of your preferences, with the understanding that it may limit your chances of a romantic relationship. I wish you well OP, we all deserve happiness!

Sounds like you are Aromatic.

have a read of the AVEN site. You'll find better advice/discussion on there!