I apologise if so. MN took my thread down: this was kind but unfortunately I had just put up a long post thanking people!
All I wanted to say is that I am fine. Exhausted and a bit down but fine. I had some lovely replies and I really do appreciate them. I should have known better than to give the door example as I knew when I postd it I would get replies from people who know my house better than me 😂