His happiness depends on how much he gets

[morningmist]

Been with my bf for over 10 years. But i feel like his love for me depends on how much sex we are having. If he is in a bad mood I ask what's up and he will tell me "you know what to do to make me happy". He has terrible mood swings if we haven't done it for a while. He isn't physically abusive though. But the other morning I heard him call our 5 yr old a little twat. And our 5 yr old asked him what's wrong and he told him daddy wants pumpy wumpy. He will frequently talk to me sexually Infront of the kids which I don't like and he knows.

I am starting to feel as though his happiness and good behaviour depends on how much we dtd. Sometimes a few weeks can pass without doing it and he will start to ingnore me and make comments about how little we are doing it. I don't have a high sex drive and in the past I have done it just for his benefit. But he would complain it's not good enough because I laid like a sack of potatoes. So this put me off doing it when I'm not in the mood.

Please tell me it's not normal to act like this

Its not normal. Sorry.

him call our 5 yr old a little twat. And our 5 yr old asked him what's wrong and he told him daddy wants pumpy wumpy. He will frequently talk to me sexually Infront of the kids which I don't like and he knows

Get out with your child
Now
Inappropriate
Call nspcc for advice

Put your dc before this twat.
You need to leave

That's disgusting. Cannot believe he said that to your kid.

@Embracelife

him call our 5 yr old a little twat. And our 5 yr old asked him what's wrong and he told him daddy wants pumpy wumpy. He will frequently talk to me sexually Infront of the kids which I don't like and he knows

Get out with your child
Now
Inappropriate
Call nspcc for advice

This!

Keep in mind he’s teaching your kids that this is normal. It is not!

That is really really far from an ok way to talk to your young child. In so many ways. Teaching her that abusive language from men is ok when they aren't getting their .. (ew, I can't even say it)?
Is this what you want for your and your child?

I just threw up in my mouth a little reading this.... he is putrid 🤮🤮🤮

Hello OP. I've reported your thread. Not because I think you're a troll but because I'm incredibly concerned. Sexual talk to children is abusive. You need to deal with this. Immediately. If he repeats that at school, or if he's told not to repeat it at school, SWs would be involved.

That's in addition to him being sexually abusive to you.

Are dc at school?
Call Monday and ask to speak to safeguarding lead in confidence
They can talk you through what to do
He needs to go
This is highly inappropriate for your dc

Sw should be involved they can help you
You can instigate this
Do this
you must act to protect your dc
Call monday to school
Call nspcc helpline if can safely do so today

Jesus. No it's not normal. He talks about sex with your kids? This situation is wrong on so many levels. You need to protect your kids and think seriously about leaving.

Do not feel sorry for him
Do you have family support

Thanks, I have told him to stop saying things like that and I get shot down by him saying "I will talk to my kids how I want" .
In the past I was going to leave and he told me I was splitting a family up, and long story short made me feel guilty so I stayed. But when he shouts and screams at me and the kids I just want out. But then I think to myself maybe I'm over reacting? When he is in a good mood he is lovely to the kids. It's like Jekyll and Hyde

@Candleabra

Jesus. No it's not normal. He talks about sex with your kids? This situation is wrong on so many levels. You need to protect your kids and think seriously about leaving.

She needs to leave Not think about it

@morningmist

Thanks, I have told him to stop saying things like that and I get shot down by him saying "I will talk to my kids how I want" . In the past I was going to leave and he told me I was splitting a family up, and long story short made me feel guilty so I stayed. But when he shouts and screams at me and the kids I just want out. But then I think to myself maybe I'm over reacting? When he is in a good mood he is lovely to the kids. It's like Jekyll and Hyde

You absolutely need to leave

He's disgusting.

Financially, can you afford to move out? I'd be hoping he had an affair so I could get rid.

This is awful, do not minimise this. Highly highly inappropriate, take action things are not going to improve.

This is awful. My jaw dropped when I read this. I don't know which bit is the worst.

Speak to nspcc
Tell your gp
Tell school safeguarding lead
They will set things in motion and support you
You and dc need counsellor
This us far from normal

When he is in a good mood he is lovely to the kids. It's like Jekyll and Hyde

They ALWAYS are. Always, no exceptions. If anyone was vile 24/7 we'd leave. It's the crumbs of a life you follow.

Please leave.

Your partner is being sexually inappropriate with your children and that's just the tip of the iceberg. You cannot allow your children to grow up in that environment.

@HollowTalk

He's disgusting.

Financially, can you afford to move out? I'd be hoping he had an affair so I could get rid.

No affair needed to get rid

List all the incidents to report

Jesus , he talks to you sexually in front of the kids , calls a 5 year old a twat!!!! and tells the child , who is asking him what’s wrong , he wants pumpy wumpy.
What the actual fuck.
No it’s not normal , HES not normal . He’s an immature vile POS Any of the above would make me never want to touch him , much less shag him ever again . Just gross 🤮

He's sexually abusing your children. Open your eyes and get out.