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Unrequited crush age 42 *cringe*

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Xztop · 11/04/2021 17:23

Ok, so I know how ridiculous this sounds but I have no one to talk to about it and quite frankly, I am devastated...

I was with my husband for 15 years but the last 12 he barely noticed I was alive, we split last year. I think this is the reason for my actions...
In october I messaged a man in prison in america, just as I penpal. He was 13 years younger than me. He made me feel AMAZING! So full of compliments, lovely, lovely personality. I had a huge crush but never dared mention it. After a few weeks he said he had feelings for me. I said it would never work but he sweet talked me round. We soon started saying we loved each other. We spoke on the phone every day, had video visits, messaged each other constantly. Then he dumped me. Out of the blue. Said it wouldn't work as we lived in different countries. This was 3 months ago. I still feel devastated. I have since found out he is in another relationship with another english lady. One his own age this time. It really hurts. I feel so ridiculous and such a loser for feeling like this....
I'm not sure what I want anyone to say but thanks if you made it this far.

OP posts:
Justilou1 · 12/04/2021 09:18

You can’t be serious

youvegottenminuteslynn · 12/04/2021 09:23

A 'silly' mistake that landed him in prison for at least a decade? Hmm...

tortoiselover100 · 12/04/2021 09:45

Honestly op, he did you a huge favour. You dodged a bullet and I'm sure deep down you know it.

He might have stirred up feelings that no one else has for a while but keep looking, you might find that again, closer to home.

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