Hi all. Would like some opinions or advice please. I've asked RL friends but don't seem to get many answers so I'll explain.
I'm 25 been with my partner 9 years who is older than me by 8 years. I feel like we rushed into this relationship, I've never been with anybody else, or really had male friends. I feel my relationship is unfulfilled, I'm unappy but I can't pinpoint where or why I would feel like this. I feel routine day in day out is boring, he's never been a decision maker, always up to me to plan things. I can't be bothered anymore and I maybe it's because I don't want to spend time with him. We are always around each other, I go to work that's as much time as I get but it's not enough because it's a very hands on job. It's hard because he never goes out I dont get time to myself. Sometimes I get sick of looking at him and I know that's awful and shallow. I've told him, he knows exactly how I feel but maybe he's ignoring it because he likes the routine. I've told him on 2 occasions I want to split up, he tells me we can work on it, that the pressure of me wanting to split is fucking his head up. That he loves me but I can't lie to him. That's unfair. I won't leave my home as I've worked so hard doing it up, all my money to make it nice not a single penny from him. And it's in my name and I pay 100% of bills so I'm not willing to move out. But he seems happy enough to bury his head in the sand and not bother looking for somewhere else even though he knows how I feel he denies it. I feel shallow because he says his happy yet I'm not, I'd be uprooting everything. I need the energy to tell him again because I get dismissed times I've told him. Days and weeks go by and he thinks we are OK, although I'm not having sex with him, I see him more of a friend. Hes getting confused, he says because we can sit and laugh or talk must mean I still feel something. But he's still in the house so I can't just ignore him.
I'm starting to think I'm the problem, that I'll never be happy, because honestly I'd rather be on my own for the rest of my life, I don't feel like I'm relationship material even though I've only ever been with him. I just want to be on my own, I've never experienced living on my own apart for a couple months when he worked away years ago, but to be on my own is what I want no one to worry about and I can do what I like.