Ladies Would You Believe Him?

[mumofoneuk]

I’ve been a silent lurker on here for years but this is the first time posting, and I’d really appreciate your advice.

So I’ve been dating this guy for several months and I’m in love with him. Problem is, in the past, my love has blinded me, I’ve ignored red flags and ended up wasting years. I don’t want to do that again. But as I’m in love.... I’m not sure I can see the wood for the trees 😕

So my guy has always been very active on Instagram. We actually met on there. I’ve always been suspicious of his online activities, but he repeatedly tells me that I’m the only woman he’s ever messaged and met up with from there. And I believed him.

So last week, an ‘acquaintance’ of mine, tells me she’s talking to a guy on Instagram and he sounds like the guy I’ve described. I didn’t believe her, so she sends me the screenshots and yes, it’s him! She’s now annoyed, thinking this dude is a player, so she tries to see how far he’d be willing to go. She gives him a few compliments, sends a pic in her bikini, tells him she’d like to have sex with him, and that’s ALL it took for him to give her his number and ask her to contact him on whattsapp!! Then on whattsapp, he asks her to tell him more about herself and to send him some more sexy pics!! He also asks if they can speak on the phone that evening. She asks him if he’s single, and he says YES!!

When I saw the screenshots my heart literally broke! I tell him I know what he’s done and it’s over! Since then, he’s been calling and messaging me, so I spoke to him, and he apologised for hurting me, but swears blind that he thought she was just a scam artist and he was just playing a long with it to expose her!!

He was in a marriage previously for 20yrs and his ex wife is adamant that he never cheated. So he says, why would he start now, with someone who he’s inlove with?

I honestly want to believe him. But I’m stuck. I just keep thinking, why say you’re single?! Why ask for more pics?!

I honestly don’t know what to think. But if he is being truthful, I don’t want to end a potentially amazing relationship over a silly mistake he made.

What do you guys think?

Suspecting the original post is a made up story. A basic one at that.
If not then you know what to do, OP.

Obviously he’s lying
It’s not even a very convincing lie

🚩 🚩🚩 > 🏃‍♀️

He must think you're really stupid. He's full of shit!

What a dilemma, if only there was some sort of clue...

I honestly don’t know what to think

Yes you do

I know you want to believe him but HE'S lying. Sorry.

@MadMadMadamMim

I think you're an idiot to even be considering this.

Get some self respect and block him.

This x10.

Don’t believe him. He gave her his number voluntarily and asked for more pictures. If you have seen the proof of this, then the evidence is there in black and white.

The first rule of scams is that you never give anyone your number! If it were a scam, he would have blocked her at the first point of contact.

He may have been honey-trapped (once she found out) but:

🚩 he'd messaged her (& who knows who else) prior to that;
🚩he asked for more pics;
🚩he said he was single;
🚩he wanted to meet.

You should have waited till that was about to happen before challenging but my guess is it would have. He's a player. Sorry.

This sounds like a fake post, however, if not....you know this is all BS. Just block and move on.

@MadMadMadamMim

I think you're an idiot to even be considering this.

Get some self respect and block him.

This.

I thought he was a young man until the 20+ years marriage. No, I repeat, no middle-aged man worth anything hands over his mobile number based on bikini Instagram snapshots or whatnots.

Get some self respect
Love ! Jesus Christ sounds like if you caught them at it he could say to you she fell on his .... and you would feel sorry for him . He's playing you op ! Been there ! So this is why I'm so harsh . Do not ever let a man treat you this way you deserve so much better

Starting a post with "ladies" is a red flag...

Would I believe him - no.

He’s trying to make a fool out of you

Of course I wouldn't believe I'm.....who would?

Run run run like your tampon string is on fire! 🔥

Run run run like your tampon string is on fire! 🔥

No.Of he’d really thought that he would have shown it to you and said hey look here’s a scammer....

He has been caught red handed and he's still lying to try to cover his tracks. His lies don't make any sense, he's not done rogue woman hunter! Any sane person would just block. That's all he had to do. He didn't he gave her his number and asked for more pictures. There is no worming out of that one.

I'm a great believer in virtue ethics it's not what you do it's your motivation and actions afterwards. His motivation was to meet gave sex with another woman, he gave out his number and engaged with her, then he tried to lie his way out of it.

This is not a man who you want a relationship with. Your friend did you a huge favour!

Ahahaha, come on, you are not this gullible.

Jesus Christ he couldn’t even think of a good lie! Trying to expose a scam artist my arse 😂 What kind of scam did he think it was? She didn’t ask for money did she? She asked for sex!! And then he asked for more pictures!!

You’re being silly to even consider this. He disrespected you by telling another woman he was single and now he’s disrespecting you again by telling such a blatant, obvious lie.

@mumofoneuk

If it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck and swims like a duck, WTF do you think it is ??

Get your head out of your arse and move on !

He’s full of 💩

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

ditch him.