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DH and DSs moved out today

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PaperChain · 09/11/2007 20:21

dh decided he needed a break. He has had enough of me this year. He has gone to his parents in a different county. This means they cant go to school. So I have said this trial separation cannot be longer than a week or two.

How am I going to cope?

PaperChain
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(used to be PhonenixSoaring - but name changed as it wasnt fair on Phoenix as our names were so similar) before that I was naswm and also losty

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Anna8888 · 09/11/2007 20:22

Your DH has taken your DSs to another country? Did you agree to this?

WatsGoingOn · 09/11/2007 20:23

Oh god paperchain, try to make the most of this time. You can clear the decks so to speak and concentrate on getting you well

pinkbubble · 09/11/2007 20:23

oh crumbs! I don't really know what to say!

Please stay strong

ChipButty · 09/11/2007 20:23

County, rather than country, I think, Anna.

CaptainCaveman · 09/11/2007 20:24

Praying for you PC, how are you coping atm?

pinkbubble · 09/11/2007 20:24

Oops I too read it as Country!

XAliceInWonderlandX · 09/11/2007 20:25

good luck and try to be strong

Flame · 09/11/2007 20:25

Oh PC

(The name changing was very nice )

cazboldy · 09/11/2007 20:27

why has he taken the dc

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PaperChain · 09/11/2007 20:27

COUNTY - not country! about 25 miles away

atm I intend to get really strong during this time, but of course I dont know how my moods will change

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cazboldy · 09/11/2007 20:27

sorry, that is if you don't mind me asking?

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PaperChain · 09/11/2007 20:29

I am not 'fit' enough to look after the dc alone atm. I am recovering from a breakdown earlier this year

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WatsGoingOn · 09/11/2007 20:29

Paperchain, have you had any useful help? I posted on your thread before when you were ps. Hoped that things have moved on for you

ScoobyDoo · 09/11/2007 20:31

Aw sorry to hear this, try & be positive, it can be time for you to get well properly & regain yourself again, i understand it will be hard & i wish you luck.

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PaperChain · 09/11/2007 20:31

I see a psychotherapist but no other help

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pinkbubble · 09/11/2007 20:33

Well PC, at the end of the day you know its down to you and only you can do the hard work, but then I know that is easier said than done! I have been there and got the T shirt so I know how hard it can be.

Will you get a chance to see DSs in the next week or two?

Are you going to receive any help? I would go and visit your GP and explain what has happened, and if they weren't prepared to help before, now they may be a bit more sympathetic and be able to offer you more support!

Good luck, YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!!! I really believe you can do this - honest!

cazboldy · 09/11/2007 20:34

oh, sorry, then I would reiterate what watsgoing on said and try to concentrate on getting well again. What a helpful dh!

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PaperChain · 09/11/2007 20:34

thanks PB - are you on msn btw??? (how was the tidal wave?????)

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WatsGoingOn · 09/11/2007 20:36

Paperchain, try to see this time as useful for you, i know how much you will be missing the others so try to turn it into a positive. Time with you may help you to sort out some very private things that maybe you havnt gone into with your therapist. Can you get more help if you seek it?

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PaperChain · 09/11/2007 20:37

I dont think there is any more help - but I agree that the time alone could be useful...

I cant bear the thought of not seeing the DSs though....

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WatsGoingOn · 09/11/2007 20:38

I also have been there and i know how dark and horrible it is and i swear to you i never thought i'd get here but i have and i still get days when i feel shit but i keep reminding myself how far i have come and you will be the same

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PaperChain · 09/11/2007 20:40

thanks wats x

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WatsGoingOn · 09/11/2007 20:40

Your dh cant stop you from seeing them if thats what you really want so always keep that in the back of your mind.

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PaperChain · 09/11/2007 20:41

I dont think he would tbh, but they seem v far away tonight

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WatsGoingOn · 09/11/2007 20:49

You should sit down and try to relax pc, think of this as a break for you rather then them going