Partner not happy with birth control method

[mummy412]

I've posted on here before about my desire to do fertility awareness as I've completely come off hormonal contraception due to side-effects.

However my partner has made it clear he doesn't feel comfortable with it and started asking me what I would do if if I was to get pregnant.

Neither of us wants a child in the next five years but I definitely do not want to get on any hormonal contraception

I've paid £250 for the Daysy and I have different apps I'm using to track my cycles

however last night he said he doesn't feel comfortable with it so I suggested he either get the snip or use condoms every time and he said no.

This is really bugging me as I think he just has a complete lack of care about my health and well-being. I responded really badly to both pills to the point where I was actually getting depressed and I've been on the implant before and it caused bleeding constantly I looked into the other methods and I really don't like the sound of them.

Cock is abundant, and of low value. No need to shag this specimen anymore, go and enjoy life, get a better quality male next time.

I'm in similar situation but reversed. I'm.not willing to do hormonal birth control anymore as had all sorts of side effects, now having weird exhausting b3 week cycles, so can't face adding in any other complications to this.
Tried copper coil couple of years ago - major heavy periods, used to have a diaphragm way back , but went for a fitting recently and all changed inside since having kids so no longer an option for me.
Thus condoms or snip.
Fella has read something scary about the v v rare complications to snip so is terrified (he is currently anxious depressed) he hates condoms.
So we're just not really having sex!! . I find it a massive turn off that he's not willing to do it , and opportunities are minimal anyway with the kids who don't sleep, his moods, always around each other with lockdown etc.
He suggested I do tracking, take my temperature etc I said no way, I'm not willing to have another child or an abortion . Or add in this extra load of admin/stress/ worry for a shag once in a while.

Hoping he'll come round!!

Cock is abundant, and of low value

Absolutely

He’s a dickhead. No condom, no sex. How dare he ask you to risk your health so he can have a shag, wearing a condom is no risk to him. He’s a selfish prick. I couldn’t be with someone who thought of me as little more than a fuck doll.

I can't take hormonal contraception. I'd include the merina coil and implant in that too. As it really messes up my mental health. So I really get this.

I've been with my partner for 16 + years. I track my cycle and we use withdrawal method. Have done for almost all of our relationship. We don't want children. I know withdrawal isn't for everyone and that's not the point of this anyway. My point is he would never expect me to make myself ill so we can have sex. We work something out between us.

As pp's have said it is really off-putting that he thinks this is all on you. It really shows a lack of regard for you. Sorry.

Selfish idiot.why should you be made to feel really rotten due to contraception when he could wear a condom!

I reacted similar to you to the same type of contraceptive OP. I chose to stop as they were really ruining my mental health and I was not a nice person to live with. We now use condoms and my DP will get the snip.

Also a caution, I became pregnant while tracking my fertile days. I only had sex on what I though was non fertile days but my cycle adjusted by a few days and I became pregnant.

LTB
He is showing he really doesn't care about you at all.
You do all the contraception, take the risks, feel poorly, and pay for it all so he can get his dick wet unencumbered.

Please dump this arse.

@May17th

OP doesn’t have to have sex she can also refuse. *@ParadiseIsland* that is not what I said. I said I can see from the his point of view even as a woman I wouldn’t want to use a condom with my long term partner forever.

Can OP not try the injection or the coil? I also think her method is risky. You have touched on the points that suit your own narrative.

The OP HAS tried the injection The Mireva coil is hormone based and will give you the same symptoms.

The only one that the OP could maybe try is the copper coil.

You are clutching at straws there.

What an arsehole! I was on the pill briefly years ago and I turned from a chilled, evenly tempered person to a very emotional unreasonable one.

Always used condoms and withdrawal method. But withdrawal only when a child wouldn't have been a big issue. Out of 4 children, only 1 was planned.

But what about the cap? I haven't used it but may be an alternative?