Online dating app suggestions please.

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Hello, I have never tried online dating before but I have a friend who isnt having much luck on Tinder. I wonder if another one might be better. She is in her early fifties but seems younger. Could you give me some recommendations. Shes looking for a relationship not a fling. Thank you x

Keep in mind the point of the app is to keep you on the app for as long as possible, not to find you a relationship.

Facebook Dating is worth a try and it's free

@VanGoghsDog

A lot of couples I know met on Guardian Soulmates - does that still exist?

Yeah, online now. Great if you want to meet a sandal wearing vegan.

Well, yes (and your post made me smile) - it didn’t sound like it would be for me. I loved Tinder, and quickly met a lovely guy who seems perfect for me (time will tell). But we’re all different,,,,

Maybe best idea is to try a few different apps and find the one that most suits you. Just like, when you move to a new town (I do this, anyway), you try a few different pubs before you find one you feel comfortable in, and then, bingo, that’s your local......

I met my husband 13 years ago on 'MySingleFriend'. I know loads of people who met online via various sites including Tinder, Plenty of Fish and Match, all very happily settled years later with their partners. Tell your friend not to give up!

@LondonMummer I completely agree! Wtf is with all the negativity toward online dating on here!!!

[quote VanGoghsDog]@Eckhart

Do a class or join a club pertaining to something she's passionate about. Join ten! She will meet other people who are passionate about the same thing,

Which "point" did I miss, oh wise one?[/quote]
You sound like you've got a bee in your bonnet. Stop tagging me, please.

@SortingItOut

Yes, it was a judgmental post. Judging things is how we form our opinions. OP has asked for our opinions.

You were judging me as being judgmental. Where will it ever end..?!

@VanGoghsDog

How can anyone be "passionate" about ten things?

Two packets of club biscuits?

(Or is that twelve?)

But you ARE judgemental Eckhart. The view must be incredible from waaay up there in your ivory tower!

@Shayelle2009

But you ARE judgemental Eckhart. The view must be incredible from waaay up there in your ivory tower!

Yes, you're judging me as being judgmental. I heard you the first time. I agreed with you. We all judge, constantly. Including you. If you're not judging me, why are you making comments about me? Why is it your judgment that I'm sitting in an ivory tower?

Did you have a point or do you just want to keep telling me how judgmental I am?

Sorry for the derail, OP.

@MarieDelaere

Two packets of club biscuits

(Or is that twelve?)

I'm sure some would say that 12 is even more unattainable.

@eckhart - that was a different poster, funny to think more than one person thinks you're judgemental.

I've given up on men and dating. Not worth the hassle. IME OLD opens you up to all sorts of seedy, nasty men. Even men offline are a constant disappointment.

I think a lot also depends on where you live. Facebook dating here is totally awful, but for my friend at the oppoaiteend of the country, it's been. Vice versa with tinder for us!
And I have several hobbies and passions, but still online date.

Btw, the Guardian is now more 'North American woke' than 'sandal wearing vegan' since it rebalanced its business and editorial models.

@VanGoghsDog I mean its fine when someone has good judgement isn't it? However when someone’s is just completely off, as is the case here and they're just making themselves look ridiculous, then it does need a mention (hence several people mentioning it)

[quote Shayelle2009]@VanGoghsDog I mean its fine when someone has good judgement isn't it? However when someone’s is just completely off, as is the case here and they're just making themselves look ridiculous, then it does need a mention (hence several people mentioning it)[/quote]
Do you mean, when you have the same judgment of them, then? Where is the rulebook about whether dating apps are a good idea or not? Couple of people including yourself seem to think I'm wrong here. That's called 'a difference of opinion'. It doesn't mean I'm wrong and you (and the person who agrees with you) are right.

You are judging me. You are doing what you are criticising me for doing. I understand your point, and I disagree. Shall we leave it at that, so that the thread can be about people's thoughts on dating apps, or would you like to continue wasting space by repeatedly telling me I'm judgmental? Or are you really this bad at dealing with it when someone disagrees with you?

Oh jog on you silly woman.

@Shayelle2009

Oh jog on you silly woman.

An insult. The sure sign of a solid argument with a strong foundation.

Please stop derailing the thread. I won't be responding to any more of your comments to/about me.

Again, OP, apologies.

Where is the rulebook about whether dating apps are a good idea or not?

The "rulebook" is that you discuss this when someone asks that question. That question was not asked.

People with experience of apps have tried to answer the actual question.

Your response was all "oooh, you don't want to do it like that, you want to do it like this...." and then listed a load of pointless clichés single people have shoved down their throats all the time.

OK then, Van Gogh

Let's leave it at that.

Dating apps are where you meet people who don't meet people by having an interesting life

@Eckhart, what an ignorant statement. If you have no experience of using apps then perhaps say that upfront and it will be clear you're making inaccurate assumptions. If you have experience of apps, then don't judge everyone by your poor standards.

@Fireflygal

Why do you think it's ok to judge me?

I am entitled to my responses, and you are entitled to yours. I'm sure it doesn't really matter to OP what you think of my post.

Eckhart havent you got 6 hobbies to be getting on with??