Similar age to you op and the comments on the post here resonate and thought provoking.
I liked the comment upthread about someone looking for a committed respectful relationship while the chap enjoys the pursuit elsewhere.
Is there any middle ground for you - any merit in expanding your friendship group generally rather than exclusively? (Though I appreciate that is probably not what you are looking for)
I am still learning on this journey but am appreciative that I have gained a number of new (mostly non-romantic) friends in the process. I just look upon it that I have gained much valued new friends at a different stage in my life and the quality of all pir lives are improved.
In non-covid times one friend takes me to explore adventurous remote locations, another takes me to experience different cultures, a third accompanies me cycling, sailing, snorkelling. Expanding my friendship group lets me go out and do things - activities and experiences that wouldn’t be ok or safe to do alone. We all enhance each others lives greatly, —but I’m not a carer/or wash their socks— 😂
Having tried OLD (respect to those who navigate it successfully!), I favour the meeting in real life thing - ( daren't venture online again since I made the mistake of seeing “seeking FWB” and naively assumed it meant a skill swap - that I would find someone to plaster my rendered wall in exchange for some extended dog-sitting on my part 😂).
Loved the comment above about at our age getting a dog or something/being in rocking chairs/knitting...😂. (... —as she heads off to sail a catamaran when lockdown is lifted)—