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I was at SIL’s home. She only ever has photos on display that are of her family in all the years I’ve known her. I’ve always had a gut feeling about trust concerning my DH. Too much of a back story to go into and I might be recognised. A photo of a young girl around 6/7 yrs old appeared in pride of place one day. I was staring at it because I could see a strong family resemblance to my DH and my SD. SIL looked agitated when she saw me looking at it but became even more nervous when I said, “Oh, who is that?” BIL immediately looked uneasy as well. SIL said, “Well, mmmm, eh, that’s a daughter of a friend of mine”
“Who?”
“No-one you need to become concerned with!”
The next time we went to visit it was nowhere to be seen.
Am I reading something into this that doesn’t exist? What are your views Mumsnetters?

Very odd but the real issue is you dont trust or believe him

@Bilquis
I’m still with him because I have no money and no relatives and nowhere to go.

I'd prepare for the worst and hope for the best. I'd get my ducks in a row in terms of planning to leave him, then you're ready to confront your husband further on this and make your exit if need be. And I think you will end up pursuing this matter further as the facial disability issue, appearance and lack of trust seem to be undercurrents for you that I don't think will go away. Although it is a bit odd as to why your SIL would have a photo on display, react the way she did and then remove it

Maybe she is their daughter but has been adopted for whatever reason?

@LadyLolaRuben
Tbh SIL is not very switched on. She probably thought I wouldn’t even notice it.

@en0la
No that wouldn’t be the case as it is a modern photo. SIL has been married for over 50 yrs.

When did you see this photo?

Is could be her grandchild?

@WiseOwlOne
About a year ago - been bothering me since, perhaps needlessly.

I’m so confused.

@WiseOwlOne
Sorry previous message meant for
@forumdonkey

@en0la

Maybe she is their daughter but has been adopted for whatever reason?

Yes. How do you know how old the photo is. Why would your SIL display your DH’s love child?

Does the sil have a son?
Can the facial disability skip a generation ?
(You dont mention any of SIL's dc having it)

I’m not one to jump to conclusions but it does seem odd. If it were me and she has FB I’d be checking her friends out and seeing if the little girl is any of their daughters to find out more else you’re always going to have it in the back of your mind.

It’s odd just to have a photo of a girl of a family member that you don’t know about or that she just wouldn’t say that’s my friend janes baby.

Well they were all certainly very weird about it.

Your dh, knowing that it disturbed you, should find out who the girl is and tell you. His reaction that "he doesn't know, end of story" is a bit concerning.

Imagine excusing everything in life with "I don't know, end of story".

The facial feature indicates she's family. Not friend.

Do you have kids with him? If not, I'd be seriously considering leaving, or making some sort of plan for this.

@toocold54
Good idea. I will check out FB. I think she is on it.

So do you believe your husband had sex with his sister and they have a child?

Tbh its quite a leap.

@Kona84

So do you believe your husband had sex with his sister and they have a child?

I doubt that's what she thinks, somehow

@AllTheWayFromLondonDAMN
You’re confused?
I’m extremely confused. 😳

@WiseOwlOne

Does the sil have a son? Can the facial disability skip a generation ? (You dont mention any of SIL's dc having it)

Is the facial disability hereditary? It's seems hugely coincidental that both father and daughter already have it, let alone that a potential second child would also be affected?

I don’t think anyone was thinking incest!!

@Kona84
That’s going a bit too far but you made me laugh. 😂

That does seem a bit suspicious!
I'd definitely be thinking something was up if I had trust issues.

My BIL actually sent my MIL & FIL a card with a photo of a 7 year old saying this is your DC. No one know about this child! He had a younger DC at the time and everyone knew of them so not sure why he kept this DC hidden. Wasn't with the same woman but he's gone on to have other DC with different woman.

Not their DC their grandchild I meant 🤦🏻‍♀️.