how much do you do for your dp dh?

[nikcola]

i was just wondering well being nosey how much do you all do for your dhs dps like iorning cooking and so on and what do they do ?

uwila, you have described my dh pretty much.
get a cleaner. make him pay for her.
do your shopping on the net. use his credit card. tesco.co, is fantastic
dont argue with him, coz he will just say you are a nag, etc etc. leave him to do what he wants. just arrange things so you manage to have some time to yourself. He doesnt need to know you do the tesco shopping on the net. get them to deliver on a wednesday evening, and on saturday tell him to babysit whilst youdo tesco, but instead go out and buy some shoes for yourself!
goodluck

actually,i consider it a treat to go to Tesco on my own...
Anyway, do most of the house/child stuff as I am at home for most of the time; before, when I was working more than dh, he did much more in the house.

Still dont shut up!! It's nice to know i'm not alone is lazy weekend dp/dh hell!!! (But silly me i forgot he's been at work all week!!) You saying you were pregnant has just reminded me - I went and got a job at 20 weeks pregnant to keep him quiet! Did it make a difference? Did it hell!!
I've just done the dishes from the weekend before he gets home tonight to avoid a row. He's phoned to let me know he'll be home in half an hour - in otherwords start the dinner !!!!

yes, I think I will win on the cleaner issue. But, will have to wait a few weeks to make my point. As soon as I raise the issue of him doing his fair share, he will no doubt raise the point that my father and neice are staying with us for a couple of weeks, impacting the level of filth as well as the finances.

Oh, and the nag comment.... Ohh that makes me mad. When he ignores me and I have to follow up with him, he looks up and says "nag nag nag..." Like a bloody 5 year old. Oh I get so mad... so so so mad!!!! I sometime can't hold back and just say "Grow up!"

Perhaps, I could get him the cleaner for his Birthday. He would be so mad... and I would be delightfully amused. I'm just kidding, it would make my life more miserable if I did this. But, it's a lovely thought!

Why do you need to ask him about getting a cleaner? Just do it. Don't (obviously!) know how big your house/flat is, but you could probably get someone in for £20 per week, which is manageable unless you're on a very tight budget.

He works as a teacher, he cooks and cleans the kitchen and does the washing up on occasion. I do all the baby bottles and wash feed change and put her to sleep. I wash up the dishes, clean and tidy rooms and do all the laundry. No one does the ironing it is banned in this house!

Just have to say that I'm really surprised (and pleased!!) at the amount of you that don't iron. We haven't had an ironing board for about 3 years now and just use the tumble dryer to make stuff kind of ironed!! IO always felt really guilty about it though like i was making my kids walk around like scruff-bags!!

Yes, tight budget. We have a serious debt problem.