He told me it’s over then same day told me he wants to get back together!

[Mango87]

Why would someone do that?
We didn’t have an argument, nothing was going wrong then he suddenly says he wants to end it saying I don’t smile enough so it’s making him have doubts so he made me leave then later that day he calls, says sorry he didn’t mean it and he wants to get back with me!
I don’t know what to think

What the hell!
id make him sweat it out a bit
Does he think your a mug?

You don’t smile enough?! . How old are you both? This all sounds like behaviour on a school playground not that between two adults.
Forget what he wants, what do you want?

Tell him to get fucked

Because he is a headfucking wanker.

You think 'good grief, how did I not spot the signs that my bf was a total jerk up till today. Thank fuck I know now so I can block the freak everywhere and move on with my life'.

I mean dumping someone because they aren't happy enough...wow xD that's a new one.

Maybe I don’t smile that much because I’ve been abused by men in the past but he knows that and he knows I try my best

What to think is that you aren't just something he can put down and pick up again like a toy.

You get some say too. I mean, not in if he wants to end it - that's his choice, but you don't need to accept him dropping you for a reason like "you don't smile enough" and then him changing his mind and saying he wants you back. Now that he's said it, I bet you'll feel pressured to smile more for him, like you're there for his viewing pleasure. Smile because you're happy, don't smile coz he tells you to. Maybe he's the reason you don't smile so much...or maybe you just don't want to smile, and that's fine too, you don't need to.

Don't let him call the shots on everything. If I were you, I'd tell him you need a few days or however long to decide if you want to get back together, then actually make a choice that works for you. Don't let him think that he gets to dictate how you behave on pain of him ending the relationship whenever he wants to make a point. That's not cool.

Ball's in your court now. Play it wisely.

Maybe he'll not doing a great job to make you smile, anyway I think you have a better excuse to stop seeing someone so flippant.

Say it’s too late to get back together

Sounds like he conjured up a ridiculous excuse to end it as he had someone else in his sights. The other person turned him down, so he rushed back to you. Sounds like a catch.

Mummywith2
He didn’t say mug no but he did say to me once that he thought I’m the type of person who could be taken advantage of easily.
I’ve told him I’m not staying with him again any time soon

Ditch him, when I was younger I had an ex like this, one day he would send paragraphs about how much he loved me the next day he would dump me by text. Then he’d want me back and it would continue, eventually I blocked him altogether. Men like that aren’t worth your time, you’ll spend every day on edge waiting for him to suddenly change his mind.

How you react to him now will define his behaviour

You say you've had a history with abusive men, well you've got another one. He's doing this shit on purpose to fuck with your head. Block this twat and do the Freedom Programme. You need to break this cycle.

Tell him to fuck off

Teflondreams
He knew I had been abused in previous relationship and said he gets why I don’t smile that much but to end it on that basis to me seems abusive in itself

This is a test and possibly an intentional one on his part. Pass the test and ditch him and don't look back.

You've just landed another abuser. Step away, do not contact him again. This is awful behaviour.

Wanderlusto
I know, the thing is I was happy with him and I am happy generally so it’s just that because of past abuse from other men and not just one I have lost the capacity to smile so much

How come he gets to be the one who makes all the decisions?

Outbutnotoutout
End it.
That’s what one of my friends told me to do

He sounds dreadful
If you let him get away with this and those things you have mentioned him saying then he will only get worse over time..
Block him and move on
Hope your ok

Yeah I reckon he thought he was in with someone else, who then turned him down.

Buh-bye, dickhead!

MsOgyny
Yeah he made me feel like I was a toy he was playing with that day. I know it’s his choice if he wants to end it like you say but for not smiling enough? Yeah you’re right I would feel even more pressured to smile more now. Seems like for his viewing pleasure yeah and like he wants to control and manipulate me coz he knows that I know what it feels like for him to end it if I don’t please him enough!

He's manipulating you to be a permanent (fake) ray of sunshine or face the chop.

It's a 'no thanks' from me.

I'd be telling him you can't stop smiling now you are rid of him and I would mean it. Do not entertain this treatment.