New boyfriend keeps talking about his ex's ...should I be worried?

[richierichiwish]

I'm starting to see a new guy and he talks about his ex's a lot.
Not just one but a lot of them.
We were just chatting on the sofa and he asked if I ever look up ex's on Facebook.
Then he showed me his ex and her new boyfriend.
Then showed me another girl and told me the story of how she seduced him.
Then he will show me another woman's photo and her new boyfriend etc etc

He can remember conversations with people he's just slept with and was telling me
"We had sex then chatted then had sex again"

This isn't quite right is it?
Why is he doing this ?
Ego maniac?

Fuck me OP! Raise your standards!

Stop for a moment and imagine years of him doing this and how it will eat away at your self-esteem.

I couldn’t have respect for a guy of 37 acting this way, it’s frankly a sign that he’s either quite thick and/or a black hole narc who will never cope with the just the attention of one woman.

Also, frankly the whole ‘she only got married to try and make me jealous’..🤮 purleaase, that is the ultimate of cringe. Can you imagine yourself ever saying that? NO, because you’re not a 14yo boy trying to impress your mates.

Ick.

God he sounds like the sort of idiot who thinks if a woman doesn't worship his cock she must be a lesbian. Immature, misogynist, entitled and stupid.

But you sound torn about it which is madness, so I think you will probably keep seeing him and hearing about all his exes who want him back.

Soon he'll be ramping it up a notch and telling you they all loved anal. He's that type. Bleurgh.

Richie, he is being quite manipulative by showing you his Exes’ photos and revealing their escapades. He clearly wants to put you on the back foot so you will do the Pick Me Dance.

For me, this behavior would be a big turn-off, so I would have to move on.

How long have you been together?

@richierichiwish he is a Gemini ♊️ run!!!

Gemini men are terrible for this, they can come across really nice & fun but have this terrible ego & entitlement complex.

If at his age he is still acting this was it is set in stone. You aren't the first to have an issue with it & you sadly won't be the last.

For him to freely talk about other peoples business like this then he will do the same to you.

( declaimer if your Gemini dp isn't like this that's fine. But please don't tag me explaining why I'm wrong)

@richierichiwish

I haven't asked him as I don't really know what to say. He told me one girl who he slept with wanted a relationship but he didn't and so she got married just to make him jealous. Apparently now she's single she is texting him again (and he's texting her ) but has told me he hopes she doesn't get the wrong idea.

Oh, come on! He's a delusional weasel, what on earth do you see in him?!

[quote happytohavefoundyou]@richierichiwish he is a Gemini ♊️ run!!!

Gemini men are terrible for this, they can come across really nice & fun but have this terrible ego & entitlement complex.

If at his age he is still acting this was it is set in stone. You aren't the first to have an issue with it & you sadly won't be the last.

For him to freely talk about other peoples business like this then he will do the same to you.

( declaimer if your Gemini dp isn't like this that's fine. But please don't tag me explaining why I'm wrong) [/quote]

you cannot be not serious 🤣😂

You cannot be serious EVEN🤣 I can't even type now 😂

Why don't you know what to say? What are your boundaries?

You either like this or you don't. If you don't then tell him, he's not the boss of you and you shouldn't minimise yourself for fear of losing a man. He's not a catch that's why he's trying to convince you he's in demand.

Personally I'd have been bored shitless by all that and dumped him already.

His conversation skills are askew and he's lacking in manners. No doubt the next poor woman he links with will have to hear him banging on about everything you've said to him too. Until she dumps him.

ditch him would be my advice.

Sounds like the only woman he should be seeing at the moment is a therapist.

@richierichiwish

It has actually made me feel a bit insecure. It makes me think does he need to keep a eye on these girls. Or is he texting this girl he slept with as I don't give him enough attention

That’s his plan. He wants you to feel insecure.

Run for the hills. This man is either deluded, a stalker, telling you he is going to cheat, trying to make you feel insecure or a down right weirdo. Possibly all of the above.

I was going to say he sounds about 18, and very immature, with not much brain power, with a very dull and silly conversational style.I would make myself an EX, If met someone like this.

OP this is well worn territory.
If you want to play the pick me dance away you go
Other than that I'd tell him to go bother someone who cares.
Been round the block with this.
Take control 👍🏻

He's a complete prat. Next!

This is a "red flag"

Talking about exes is bad juju for a relationship

Sounds narcissistic to me ! I'd run ...

But if you wanted to mention it to him, listen very carefully to his response. If he thinks there's nothing wrong with what he's saying then that tells you all you need to know. Also if he will not apologise for how it made you feel then I'd run.

I'm speaking from experience, behaviour I once ignored at the beginning of a relationship and blamed it on insecurities.

Take care.

He sounds extremely immature. Get rid not boyfriend husband or partner material.

I had a bf just like this, we were happy but always going around in circles about his past, my past.
In the end, I couldn't take it anymore.

When we split up, it turned nasty and he ended up sleeping with some of my "friends"
I can only go by my experiences of this, but run
I ended up coming off all SM and ending long term friendships when "friends" fell for his good looks and charm.
From what I've read he has issues, don't be me. Don't go through the pain of second guessing and having him ruin your life. X

FFS woman! Where's your self worth? How can you NOT know that this is not normal?

@richierichiwish

Annoying thing is I actually really like him but the constant talking about ex's and how he is hot property is really annoying me.

Then tell him. If he doesn’t cut it out, kick him to the curb.

He sounds incredibly insecure.
I thought you were going to say he was 18, not 37.

That is ridiculous behaviour for someone his age.

I would tell him you're not interested and more, and I would tell him the reasons why. He must think it's either impressing you, or making you feel like everyone wants a piece of him.

Why do women stay with people who make them feel insecure? Just don't understand it!

Raise your standards OP, you don't need to talk to him, just dump him.

Instead of this making you be worried

It should be turning you off him