No contraceptive? Withdrawal method?

[Kisha86]

I’ve been with my partner for a year now. And I told him that I am not on birth control and he said it’s ok. So we are using the withdrawal method is that reliable specifically on ovulation day?

Of course it isn’t.

No

No

There's a name for people who use the withdrawal method.....

Mummy

@JackieweaverhasALLtheauthority

There's a name for people who use the withdrawal method.....

Mummy

That's the one

It's a method of getting pregnant.

Yes. It is around 95% effective when used properly and all the time - not just on ovulation day

We were taught this at 13!

is there a particular reason neither of you are wiling to use contraception ? 🤔

or are you both secretly trying to get pregnant without actually saying to each other 🌺

You already have at least 4 children so present you know if the withdrawal method is effective I would have thought?

Presumably- not present

You need to ask for this to be moved to the Conception board

No it's not. He's 3 now.

Please don't claim ignorance when you end up pregnant.

In all honesty it has worked for me but it took ages for me to get pregnant so I’m probably not very fertile. I am allergic to condoms and got sick on the pill.

@LunaHeather

We were taught this at 13!

I was thinking that !.

Do you want to have a baby with this man?

It's not reliable. And you'd be a fool to do it if you would be horrified if you got pregnant / you don't want a baby.

That said, in all fairness it worked for me for five years (I'd have been fine if it had failed tho).

Also I assume I'm relatively fertile because when we decided to try I got pregnant from the ONLY non-withdrawal fertile window shag we've ever had. (Sadly I had a MC so we will have to try again. But it does suggest withdrawing was working for us).

But despite my experience, it's not 100%, there are gazillions of people it's not worked for and you would be crazy to do it if you actively don't want a baby.

We used it successfully for 9 years pre-children. I was always very strict though that DH had to withdraw. You have to trust your partner they will do that though to avoid the obvious thing happening.

I know about 6 pull out babies.

There’s lots of options OP. How about the Coil, injection, implant a different pill? After a year you still really don’t know someone, so potentially having a child with them...

No - worst plan ever, you'll be pregnant in no time. Please be more responsible. The mirena coil is great IME

Don't you have like 5 kids already.....I don't think you need us to tell you it's not a form contraception 🤦‍♀️

I'm also guessing by your username you are age 35? One would think you'd know better at that age sorry - you aren't 15

No, don’t let this man risk your health and well-being. He should be wearing a condom.

Don't do it. The eldest is 3 and the youngest is 5 months old.
(Disclaimer: very happy to get pregnant and have children, his was our approach. If it happened, great, if it didn't- also great. Dh is now booked on for a vasectomy.)

What goes wrong in your life to make you genuinely believe the “withdrawal method” is even a “method”? Like did you not go to school? Do you not have a baseline understanding of how conception works? Google is your friend sis

A year?
Are you insane?
Condoms if you don't want to use hormonal contraception or have a copper coil.
This will not end well otherwise.