No contraceptive? Withdrawal method?

[Kisha86]

I’ve been with my partner for a year now. And I told him that I am not on birth control and he said it’s ok. So we are using the withdrawal method is that reliable specifically on ovulation day?

It's our method of choice tbf. I was on the pill at the start of our relationship but then came off because of headaches.

My dh has never had an 'accident' and always withdraws in plenty of time. We did that for 7/8 years pre kids. Then when we did try to conceive we did so on month 2 and month 1 so we are quite fertile.

I agree though, you need to completely trust him to not let you down and ideally in an situation where a baby isn't the end of the world if you were unlucky.

With a boyfriend of a year, it's ridiculous.

Is it even worth the risk?

The risk is yes, Mummy, especially a single one. But the risk is also having an abortion. A avoidable one.

He by the way can walk away from both those, as many men do every day.

Oh FFS!

Well there’s two questions here- one is whether withdrawal can work long term (to which the answer from personal experience is very much yes, for 10 years here but depends on a lot of factors) and secondly will it work for you, in your circumstances. Another baby in this house wouldn’t be a total disaster but it isn’t what we are planning, but this is in a 20 year marriage which is a different scenario to yours entirely.

Why aren’t you using contraception?

People who use this method are stupid and uneducated.

Congratulations in advance on your pregnancy OP

Withdrawal method does not work. Having a termination was the saddest day of my life and I will never stop thinking about what I did. Arrange contraception today.

If you dont want a baby use contraception...

Are you serious 🤯🤯

You can do it as long as your periods are clockwork and you can rely on your partner to withdraw on time.

You have to be very, very disciplined. I relaxed once and became a parent that way after nearly five years using it.

However, your situation seems a little unstable so you should probably do more to protect yourself

Not sure what you're asking or whether you're going to engage with posters on your thread but fwiw withdrawal method is fine if you are ok with getting pregnant. Otherwise, be a responsible adult and use contraception properly.

We use it and always have done apart from brief phases of me being on the pill which sent me into a massive depression . Never had any slip ups after 18 years.

Is op trolling us with this question? Seriously?

And the reason he will not use a condom is.....?

Ensure him that the withdrawal method definitely works, then when you accidentally get pregnant he'll have to stay with you.
Job done.

Surely withdrawing is much more of a kill joy than using condoms.

If you were using natural cycling methods such as temping and avoiding sex at all during your fertile window and withdrawing then you would likely have a reasonable chance of not getting pregnant. After a year though I don’t see how you can have enough trust in your DP.

Got pregnant twice using withdrawal.. two terminations. Use a condom.

I have a friend who uses the withdrawal method, they have three beautiful children 🤷🏼‍♀️

@hoven

Yes. It is around 95% effective when used properly and all the time - not just on ovulation day

I doubt this. Between 15 and 45% of men (depending on the study you're referencing) leak semen into their pre-ejaculate fluid. The withdrawal method is useless if your partner is one of these men.

Some people using it will have a long term partner who does not leak semen into their pre-ejaculate and, for these couples, it should be quite effective if done properly. Problem is, short of examining pre-ejaculate samples with a microscope, you can't determine which camp your DP is in.

This post must be a troll