No contraceptive? Withdrawal method?

[Kisha86]

I’ve been with my partner for a year now. And I told him that I am not on birth control and he said it’s ok. So we are using the withdrawal method is that reliable specifically on ovulation day?

That's why strict RC have such big families

You have 5 children already with different partners. The latest after you knew the father for 6 months.
You know the answer.

@user643289

You have 5 children already with different partners. The latest after you knew the father for 6 months. You know the answer.

Big oof

@user643289

You have 5 children already with different partners. The latest after you knew the father for 6 months. You know the answer.

Less than a month, surely. She had known him “almost half a year” when she was 22 weeks pregnant!

You're at your most fertile the day before ovulation.

No, withdrawal clearly isn't reliable. If you chart your temperature, use ovulation predictor kits and keep an eye on your cervical mucus, you can learn to avoid having sex in your fertile window. That's probably a better method for avoiding pregnancy.

It depends. For some people it works really, for others they have a baby! Fine to use if a baby would be fine. Use a different method if a baby wouldn't be fine

Came on to say what @hamfisted said. The withdrawal method is not reliable at all, on a population level. If you hear about individual success stories, it's usually because the man happens to be somebody who doesn't have sperm in his pre-cum. Sone men have sperm in their pre-cum and some don't. You have no way of knowing which camp your partner/DH falls into, and even if the man you're having sex with doesn't have sperm in his pre-cum, he could still get "carried away" and ejaculate.

And I can't imagine sex is much fun if you're worrying about controlling ejaculation the whole time.

So overall it's a bad idea, and you shouldn't be reassured by the fact that it does seem to work for some couples, as you have no way of knowing if you'll be amongst their number.

Have recently been using withdrawal method successfully with wife - she had issues with pill and coil and came off both whilst I have some ED issues at times with condoms. This is an interim solution though whilst I wait for vasectomy and ED treatment, we've been together over 15 years, we're not quite as frequent as we used to be and she's in her late 40s so not quite as fertile.

Wouldn't necessarily recommend for younger more fertile and frequent couples though, and the one and only time we tried rhythm method 10 years ago resulted in conception!

In the original poster's situation contraception of some form looks a no-brainer!

There is no such thing as the "withdrawal method". It's not a method. It's not contraception.

Get the copper iud, it is non hormonal and is probably the best alternative I have come across for myself. I used the pull out method previously and couldn't deal with the paranoia!

You were “done with” MN over 3 years ago from a quick scan.

This is either someone playing a long game, someone who thinks a relationship isn’t real unless it produces a baby, or someone who’s very vulnerable and sadly incapable of making good decisions. Oh dear.

It all depends. My parents used it their whole life and they were fine. I ended up having three unwanted pregnancies before I got my self a proper contraception. It turned out my DH had an ED.

I'm currently 23 weeks pregnant from using the withdrawal method.

Abit different for us as we've been together 7 years and wanted to start trying for our second at the end of the year. Just came sooner than planned.

Have you discussed what would happen if you fell pregnant?

I never got pregnant when I had sex where my partner 'pulled out' and I got pregnant pretty much every time he didn't (whilst not on contraception) so in my experience, it works.

While doing sex education at school, the words of my form teacher always stuck with me - “a boiling kettle spits”