I have no one to talk to..I just want to cry

[Lostandlost]

Sorry for my pity party. But I am overwhelmed.

1. Strained marriage because my H had written off everything until his last penny savings to my inlaws in his will to prove that he cares for them.
2. Inlaws have now written away everything to my sil to prove they love her.
3. I have been kept in dark about all this thinking my husband is actually saving for my children but as of he owns nothing to give away.
4. To make it worse, I am a housewife; now desperately looking to earn because I cant rely on my H anymore after he betrayed me financially.
5. I was home to take care of him with his deteriorating auto immune condition. The medication has now affected his liver and we are waiting for either the bad news or the worst news.
6. My inlaws blame me for his auto immune condition as I am supposed to be keeping him healthy so that he could send his income to them.
7. My mum suffers from depression since Inlost my dad and my sister has hydrocephelus which becomes worse with stress. I cant tell them both.
8. I feel the storm is comming and I am not prepared. H might get sick/worse. I wont have a penny to survive nor my inlaws will give me anything as they have already written it off and they are down right greedy and wont acknowledge me or my children.

I am scared. I am lost. I cant talk to anyone.

On the outside, I have a good healthy husband ( I dont). I own a house ( solely depends on Hs ability to earn which is only going south). I am rich ( I am absolutely stuck and broke and have nothing in my name) and save a lot ( we send almost everything to inlaws as they have brainwashed my husband that he is a bad human being if he dosnt). My husband is the scape goat child to their daughter who is the golden child. They dont even care much about his liver problem, as long as the money comes in.. it should be ok .

I know this senario is new to the western world. I am not looking for quick solutions. I think I just want to say it out . I am lost and crying.

Oh.. I really hope so @Frustratedbeyondbelief.. I need to still book 1-2 appointments with a lawyer who knows both side of the laws.

I had a free half hour one but that was mostly selling me their services rather than advice.

@Lostandlost sorry, you haven’t said whether your house was in joint names? And it’s not clear what you mean by “written away”. Has your husband already changed the house deeds into your PIL names? And sent them all his cash too?

I agree with @Frustratedbeyondbelief. you need legal advice from English lawyer. Not some half Hindu lawyer. That’s irrelevant here! Also you should ask for this post to be moved to “legal matters”. You will get some proper legal advice there.

@skeemee.. just checked. I am an occupant on the deeds.
'Writtem away' I meant he had put his parents and sisters name in the will. My PILs put only my sister in laws name on theirs.

You need a lawyer who knows UK law, knowing Indian and/or Hindu law is of no use at all here

His will is irrelevant while he is alive too.

Hindu law is irrelevant here in the UK - any religious law is irrelevant here. If your name is on the deeds, then your husband/partner cannot 'will' your half to his parents - only his half.

I realise that in the event of your husband/partner's death, you will face pressure from his family to sell up and give them everything, but in this country, you do not have to.

Please see a UK solicitor, versed in UK secular law, and take a copy of the deeds to show her.

While he is alive, you are caring for him. You should be paid for taking care of him. Tell him you want payment in cash, and open a bank account in your own name. (If he resists, suggest that he can take care of himself or send for his mother).
Also, start siphoning any cash you can and bank it in your name. When you pay for groceries, ask for an extra 10 pounds in cash. if you use cash, keep the change for yourself. You can squirrel away quite a lot while he is still alive.

this is very distressing to read OP, I hope you find good legal advice. 🌸