Blame

[Sylvia1999]

I get blame for everything from my partner. Not saying I am perfect.

It hurts and when I upset in tears he ignored me and I never know where I stand in relationship.
I feel so lonely

Relationships are supposed to make you feel better. This one is doing the opposite. It's pretty clear what the solution is?

What's the reason you're staying with someone who treats you like he doesn't like you and you're unhappy?

That's not a healthy way to communicate. If you don't know where you stand in a relationship then there's only one way for it to go.

He says he loves me etc but I don't feel it not proper love. It upsets me I get blame all the time and he makes me thinks its me . I start doubting myself and feel low next day

Look, I can tell you I love you. I love you. There, easy.

Now, can I treat you like shit and denigrate you and make you feel bad about yourself, and should you keep coming back for more?

Words are easy, and saying "but I love you" isn't good enough to excuse being treated badly. Words need to be accompanied by actions.

If you love someone, you don't treat them with contempt.

I could also be quite believable about loving you and cry (if I worked up a good head of self pity, if I thought you were about to leave me and take away my emotional punchbag).

(My ex used to treat me poorly and expect sweet words to magic that away.)