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Online dating - would this make you go 'urghh yuck'?

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Afishcalledwonderful · 15/03/2021 17:06

I am not an online dating novice but I've only recently rejoined after a 5 month break. I've been messaging someone for about 10 days and he seems nice and normal (well, as much as you can possibly tell at this stage) but today he has said something that's really turned me off! He was just telling me about his day and that for dinner he is eating the rest of a casserole he made last night but it has too many onions in 'so it might get a bit windy' 😳 I mean, really?! It's actually made me feel a bit sick. That's done it for me, a switch has flicked in my head and I don't want to speak to him anymore! Shall I just block him?

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DinosaurDiana · 15/03/2021 17:07

Yep.
He shouldn’t be sharing that at this stage !

FuckyouCovid21 · 15/03/2021 17:09

I think you may be overreacting a little, I mean it's a bit urgh but I don't think it's deal breaker but you obviously do and that's all that matters. Don't just block him though, that's not very nice

CurlyMair · 15/03/2021 17:12

Yeah... that's a bit soon to be sharing that much information, but on the other hand he might be trying to show you that he has a ' sense of humour'.

Up to you really what you decide . It would make me think hmmm, that's a bit too much , but on the other hand I'd rather he do that than say something sleazy or otherwise.

But then if you aren't comfortable, then yeah, get rid. Your choice.

Marineboy67 · 15/03/2021 17:13

Yes perhaps you should, sounds like he was just trying to humour you. If something as trivial as that turns you off he's obviously not for you.

Toffeepieandcream · 15/03/2021 17:14

Don't just block him - that's really rude when you've been talking to him for ten days!! It's fine that it's put you off talking to him but you should tell him you don't want to chat any more.

MarkRuffaloCrumble · 15/03/2021 17:15

Yeah it’s not the worst thing he could have said in the grand scheme of OLD overshares, but if you’ve got the ick you may not recover!

For me, it wouldn’t be the end of the world. But there’s a whole world of weird and wonderful men out there so if you’re not feeling it, move on.

I’d be thinking “ooh he cooks and he uses up leftovers” both ticks in my book! Windy bum not so much Grin

JimmyJabs · 15/03/2021 17:17

It would make me go off him, tbh. It sounds like you've fallen into chatting to each other as if you were mates and he forgot he was supposed to be making you want to shag him at some point 😁. Maybe just reply with something like 'tmi' and see if chatting to him for a bit longer brings the feelings back. But if you can't see it happening, you're perfectly within your rights to decide he's not for you and move on.

TheRedBalloon · 15/03/2021 17:17

I wouldn't write him off just for that, on a first date I was on he trumped and it stunk, I was in hysterics, been married to him for 15 years now!
I have a low brow sense of humour though!

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Afishcalledwonderful · 15/03/2021 17:19

@JimmyJabs exactly that. You've hit the nail on the proverbial.

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Afishcalledwonderful · 16/03/2021 14:47

So... I sent a message saying 'erm thank you for that information!'. He replied this morning saying 'any time!' with a laughing face emoji 😳 so when I was having a break, I messaged him to say whilst I've enjoyed chatting to him, I don't really feel we are the best fit and it is only right to be honest. He was cool about it and we wished each other luck. Onwards ....

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Dave2021 · 16/03/2021 15:05

Gives a whole new meaning to 'onion ring'

PussGirl · 16/03/2021 15:07

I'd be thinking Hmm, a man that can cook...

Grin
cantgetmyheadroundit · 16/03/2021 15:11

@Dave2021

Gives a whole new meaning to 'onion ring'
😂😂
Loopyloututu2 · 16/03/2021 15:14

It would make me think he’s a bit juvenile, it all sounds a bit “Viz”. Which could be ok if you get to know and like him but he really shouldn’t be sharing that side of himself so soon - leave some mystique puh-lease!
(My guess would be that his soh is a bit “toilet humour” and he’s putting the feelers out early on to see if you’re ok with that - you’re not and that’s fine - no point wasting any more time!)

AryaStarkWolf · 16/03/2021 15:16

Really that would make people block the guy? I probably would have just laughed and not thought about it ever again

bangheadhere40 · 16/03/2021 15:16

Good call. That would really put me off I'm afraid, I can't stand 'jokes' like that.

Bluntness100 · 16/03/2021 15:19

Wouldn’t remotely bother me to be honest, it would if he was sitting farting on a date, but “a little bit windy “ doesn’t bother me. I fart. I’ve had a kid. I’ve wiped arses. I’ve heard my friends fart. The thought of it doesn’t bother me.

But it does you so you’re best off out of it.

Reddotimbusy · 16/03/2021 15:21

It would make me go off him, tbh. It sounds like you've fallen into chatting to each other as if you were mates and he forgot he was supposed to be making you want to shag him at some point

I agree with this. I don’t think he’s going to light your fire. He might be able to light his own farts after all those onions though

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Afishcalledwonderful · 16/03/2021 15:30

I do have a sense of humour 😂 and no doubt my DS6 would have found it hilarious but it's a right turn off in this context and so early on. Can you imagine Roger Moore as James Bond having had been half as successful with the woman had he told them he'd be farting the bed covers off all night, guffaw guffaw?!

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AryaStarkWolf · 16/03/2021 15:33

@Bluntness100

Wouldn’t remotely bother me to be honest, it would if he was sitting farting on a date, but “a little bit windy “ doesn’t bother me. I fart. I’ve had a kid. I’ve wiped arses. I’ve heard my friends fart. The thought of it doesn’t bother me.

But it does you so you’re best off out of it.

Yeah same, plus I grew up in a house with 3 brothers, I suppose fart jokes are just water off a ducks back Grin
JimmyJabs · 16/03/2021 15:35

@Afishcalledwonderful

I do have a sense of humour 😂 and no doubt my DS6 would have found it hilarious but it's a right turn off in this context and so early on. Can you imagine Roger Moore as James Bond having had been half as successful with the woman had he told them he'd be farting the bed covers off all night, guffaw guffaw?!
I dunno, sounds very much like the sort of crappy non-joke that Rog Bond would have gone for 🤣

It's the toilet humour thing - it has its place, and that place is not during a flirtatious chat. I'm not saying I've never laughed at a poo joke when I've been among friends but I wouldn't make a similar joke to a man I was hoping to impress, not until I knew him and his sense of humour a lot better.

LunaNorth · 16/03/2021 15:39

Aw, I bet he won’t enjoy his casserole now.

The silly sod.

SooMoony · 16/03/2021 15:40

I would definitely be put off a man who talked about farting - he could be one of those types who lift one bum cheek and let rip and think it's absolutely hilarious, or the idiots who ask you to pull their finger, and when you do, they fart loudly. It's juvenile and I really wouldn't want any kind of romantic relationship with a man like that.

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Afishcalledwonderful · 16/03/2021 15:40

Exactly that @SooMoony!

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Brownteddybear · 16/03/2021 15:43

@Afishcalledwonderful

I do have a sense of humour 😂 and no doubt my DS6 would have found it hilarious but it's a right turn off in this context and so early on. Can you imagine Roger Moore as James Bond having had been half as successful with the woman had he told them he'd be farting the bed covers off all night, guffaw guffaw?!
But Bond wasn't online dating and whilst I agree it's a bit off putting to read that from him, I think if you'd met in person and fancied the pants off him and he said something similar you may have given him a chance.
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