No acknowledgment of Mother's day

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I'm feeling a bit low this morning, I'm mum to a lovely 2yo boy and pregnant with our second child. My husband has not acknowledged the fact that it's mother's day in any way and I feel quite sad about it. Obviously my son has no idea, he made a card in nursery which was lovely but I was expecting a card and a "happy mother's day" today from my OH. I got a card made up for his mum, gave her a pressie yesterday as we wouldn't be seeing her today, so he didn't even have to focus on getting her anything. I was the one who got up with our son this morning, fed him, played with him... I just feel a bit let down. He had said during the week that he was trying to get a nice restaurant meal delivered today but couldn't get a response from the place, so I actually mentioned this today to see would it even prompt him to realise the day it was but no. This is just a bit of a rant here but I feel really let down. Probably pregnancy hormones too playing a role!

Good for you @ElphabaTheGreen

Doormat might seem harsh but it’s exactly how you are behaving.

It would have been a nice thing to do and he chose not to. I think it stinks.

What jumps out to me is that the OP organised her MIL’s Mother’s Day present instead of letting the partner do it himself.

So why be surprised that he hasn’t organised anything for her?

She isn’t his mother - just acts like it!

I agree it is poor form to say he will organise a delivery meal dinner then not bother to do anything.

I would scale back on acting like his mother if you’re not going to get a Mother’s Day acknowledgement from him.

Id feel like that too. I made a fuss about it a week before mothers day telling him he better do something nice. And he followed through. Im pregnant and hav a 3 year old similar to u and its not always easy. So yeah i had to be quite direct. I think men need to be told what u want orelse theyl just leave it and be lazy about it.

You do have to vocalise. I’d say I was disappointed you didn’t do anything for Mother’s Day, i feel like you don’t value the effort I put into our children every day. Could you please arrange that meal delivery for next Sunday instead? And next year don’t ‘almost’ do something, it conveys that you almost cared... but you didn’t. You will also be responsible for your own mother next Mother’s Day too, I hope you don’t forget about her, she’d be hurt and deserves more from you.